Stop looking after my friends so much

I set some post mid year resolutions because I wanted to get my self-improvement goals back on track after a slump. I detail how I will go about achieving my goal using SMART objectives, with a contingency plan for if I am not able to do this

Why have I set this?

During my birthday I shared my Blackpool story with a mutual friend.  They helped me reach peace with the endless guilt I had felt all those years.

I realised that generally – I carry my friends too much.  I constantly find jobs for them to apply for that they never bother to do, I pay for drinks and meals because I make more money than them, which I only do because I am willing to work harder and I go out of my way to give them lifts.

I don’t know when my friends will take responsibility, but it is time for me to let them stand on their own.


  • I will not give friends lifts unless it does not inconvenience me or is a short journey
  • I will no longer pay for meals unless it is a special birthday..
  • I will only buy drinks in a round-for-round situation.
  • I will stop making efforts to send jobs through to them – their career, their life.


  • Keeping a log of any favours that I carry out for my friends and any spending.


  • I realise the mistakes that I have made and that I need to change my habits.


  • I am a nice guy but I have reached a point where I don’t feel the need to spoil friends by spending money on them.  But as I am not very assertive I may end up going out of my way to drive friends home.

Time Based

  • I will stop all spending, help and favours on the above now.
  • I will not give inconvenient lifts until theend of 2014and review my progress.
  • I will adhere to all other issues mentionednow and review how I did at theend of 2014


  • I do not intend to bend on this.  However if I do I expect to be compensated either through favours, money or treats.

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