Hello good reader. As writers we are eager to get people to see our work – in the world of blogging and the Internet there is so much content out there that it is difficult to be seen.

In many situations we may get frustrated and quit because we are not getting that instant validation that we need. In other situations we may take action, taking time away from the writing to plug and promote our work as much as possible. I understand I have been there.

I thought I would give my own personal opinion on what is the correct way of asking someone to view your blog.

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Background

There is good reasoning behind doing this. I have shared a number of writing on the WordPress community pool – where my motivation has been to feedback on my writing, my content and the layout of my blog.

In doing so I have also put in time to provide feedback to others. Sometimes this involves reading content that I would not necessarily be interested in or from writers whose views I oppose, but I am open minded and I can see the benefits of reading different things from time-to-time.

After a request for feedback, I got many good comments and a few follows (hello those readers!), there was one response that bothered me. I will paraphrase the quote and see if you pick up on it.

“Yeah your blog is great, come have a look at mine”

Now initially you may not see what my issue is – they have said my blog is great, which is good – what more could I want?

Well there are a few things that irritated me about the comment and I will break them down now:

Yeah your blog is great, come have a look at mine”

This first statement is particularly frustrating because of its generic nature – it’s good you think my blog is great, but why? What did you like about it? Was there any posts in particular that stood out?

If I wanted to read too much into it, then it sounds like you haven’t even looked at my blog.

Even someone who is relatively lazy wanting me to give feedback could easily click my link. Have a quick look through my home page and say something a bit better like

“Your blog is great, I particularly liked your post on doing more pull-ups, come have a look at mine”

Although I would not recommend writing a request like this, it is still better than the comment I received because it illustrates that the person invested some time to actually click and read what my blog was about

Now the second point

“Yeah your blog is great, come have a look at mine

You probably are thinking that I am a bit annoyed by that demanding nature that I should go have a look at their blog, just because they left me a generic comment. In some ways you are very right – I do always try to make time have a look at anyones blog who leaves me a comment. But the demanding request is not the primary reason.

The problem with come look at mine is – what am I looking at? A general frustration with me when people share their blogs for feedback or just general shameless promotion is when they make no effort to explain what they are about.

If they had put:

“Yeah your blog is great, come have a look at my blog which shows my poetry writings” that is much better.

I am not a massive fan of poetry but at least I know what it is about, bare in mind I have been slightly narked with your demanding approach, but if I do decide to follow through with your request I know what I am getting into.

If they had taken my actual advice before and read what my blog was about they could have said:

“Yeah your blog is great, I particularly like your writing on health and fitness. Come have a look at my blog, I write poetry, but I am also a runner and have written poems about my experience of running which you might get a kick out of.”

Finally

“Yeah your blog is great, come have a look at mine”

I was reading Dale Carnegies “How to Win Friends and Influence People”, although the book is dated in many ways, it still has golden nuggets of relevance. In one of the chapters Carnegie absolutely demolishes a business enquiry letter where the writer has contacted a potential client talking about everything they want and not once taken into consideration the potential customers needs.

The same is the approach for asking for someone to look at your blog. As soon as I read that statement I thought “Why should I?”

Take the Dale Carnegie advice – next time you are wanting others to look at your blog think about the needs of users. So for example if I wanted people to look at my blog – The Manifesto of Perfection, I would say

“I write a blog called the Manifesto of Perfection, it is focused on self-improvement and goal setting. I particularly focus on the topics of Fitness and Career – it is from a personal point of view and I hope it inspires other to make improvements in their life.”

Although my blog is very personal and essentially about me, I have made statements to angle it towards a person’s personal interests. So if there is anyone else who reads who is interested in self-improvement they are probably more likely to click than if I had said

“I have written a blog about myself, come have a look”

And as a footnote on the original request.

“Yeah your blog is great, come have a look at mine

The final issue is the wording – from the “Yeah” which sounds like the person isn’t really interested to the “come have a look at mine” which is irritatingly demanding and bossy. The thing with the written word is that it is a powerful thing, it can portray all sorts of things in the individual. In this case the person came off as rude.

It’s important to reiterate how you word a request for someone to view your writing, because if you are a blogger or an aspiring writer your language is everything. If you portray yourself poorly in writing a simple request, it could easily be that your blog writing is just as poor.

Language and grammar is everything

It also helps to have some manners – include pleases and thank you’s, it can also be helpful to add sentences like “if you could spare a minute of your time to look at my blog and provide some feedback” because that is showing that you are considerate and recognise that the viewers time is precious – even if you don’t say what your blog is about, if you have personally requested I view your blog I will do it because you have asked nicely.

Lesson: manners maketh the (wo)man

So thank you dear reader for your time – I realise I have probably written way too much on a small annoyance of mine, but if one person gets the point, my little rant was worth it.


Important note: this post is written with an assumption that the site owner is accepting invites to check out other blogs.

Always apply a bit of social intelligence – focus on commenting on the posts content, not plugging your blog.

From my experience 80% will check you out if you give a response with quality and value.

50 thoughts on “Blogging Etiquette: How do you ask someone to view your blog?

  1. I love this James. Come visit my…

    I so wanted to write a snarky reply in the style of a bad, generic request to visit my blog but I couldn’t do it.

    Awesome, practical marketing advice here. I’ll have to keep it in mind!

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    1. Thanks i didn’t realise a general annoyance of mine could result in such a large post. I love it when I am over analytical and break things down. I should try it more…

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      1. Thank you again! Will definitely try to without making it too false. One of my favourite things to write as it made me realise how much my writing has improved over the past few years

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  2. James, love this. I have been getting a tiny bit…… with comments that say heres my blog link come and have a look. I even gathered a few blog post by others to then ping back on this same/similar subject . The other thing that gets me is when likes are greater than view.. But these days i ignore, but i havent got the guts to delete comments that say come and like mine..

    One if the etiquettes i read somewhere is if someone comment pay that person a visit, but the commentor should never demand you visit..

    Sometimes best to ignore.

    When i first started blogging i was so naive if some followed me i would politely follow back.. then realise it is not want i want to read.

    It is a learn curve.

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    1. Thank you. Yes there is a few irritating habits from people. I don’t mind not approving/responding to shameless plugs because the worst thing is they don’t come back – but as I don’t want people who just take all the time as my audience it doesn’t bother me ☺

      It certainly is a learning curve doing this for over three years and approaching 300 posts and feel I am learning everytime still!

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      1. Always fun to be exposed to these new experiences eh? XD

        Dale Carnegie’s book is amazing hehe.
        To me, it’s all about bringing value! If you bring value to people, people will likely give it back as well.

        Though not all, that’s for sure lol. I don’t explicitly tell people explicitly to check out my blog all the time. Usually I just leave my link down after signing out a comment to allow them the option to check out my blog if they like my personality when I checked out their content.

        If they do, awesome! If not, too bad I guess lol. I might change things in the near future but for now, I’m sticking to this formula 🙂

        I HAVE received those kinds of comments as well (The generic “Demand” ones) and I’ll sometimes entertain them if I’ve got time. When I do, some of them actually do come to me as well and check out my stuff and I believe the reason to that, is because I was able to provide value to them via my comments and reviews, which led them wanting to return the favor.

        Perhaps there’s other reasons to it lol but I personally believe that people would return to you if you are able to give value AND treat them as another real individual, talk to them like one instead of just “Hi, you are just another blogger. Here’s my stuff, help me see if you like them!”-

        And just end it there. Talk to people, ask them questions. Be genuine. If you totally don’t care for the topic, let them know too lol! I do that.

        I’m not one who’s very into poetry, poem blogs etc as well but I still review them with my personal opinion while informing them that I am not very into those kinds of stuff and I will try my best to review them and everything else as best as I can.

        At the same time, talk to them in the posts. Try to at least XD
        Nice article 😉

        Your pal,
        Benjamin
        http://www.projectbiy.com

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      2. Thanks – like you say it is all about value. Sometimes I like to give my opinion, or share an experience. Sometimes it’s just showing appreciation for what someone had written.

        And agreed these bloggers are just people and I accept in many cases that they probably are genuinely nice beyond the shameless plugging, I suppose it’s just they are bad and inexperienced at the whole thing and don’t know a better way of doing it 🙂

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    1. Thanks for the comment if I was going to give a simple bit of advice to new bloggers is be as generous to others as you would expect them to yourself ☺

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    1. Thank you Gloria for your comment as someone whose spelling and grammar isn’t always the best I take extra care with what I write – even when commenting.
      Hopefully my little rant will impact someone although at the moment it’s mostly bloggers agreeing with me ☺
      And no problem you have great content

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  3. Thank you so much for this post. I am also a fan of, and been trained in the ideas of Dale Carnegie. I do like the nuggets I find because they are truly golden. I want to thank you for your wisdom and the golden nuggets I find in your work. Mike

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    1. Thank you Mike for commenting and following my blog.
      Although an old book how to win friends and influence people can easily be applied to modern life and the technology we now have to make a greater impact.

      Thank you again for taking the time to comment.
      All the best
      James

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  4. I will be following you now for two reasons. You are funny and remind me of myself, tearing a statement apart to try to get to the real meaning but also helpful with your suggestions. I was laughing most of the way through your post because I can relate however, I really appreciate you putting your thoughts to words as it has helped this newbie!

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    1. Firstly thank you very much Donna for following me ☺
      Secondly thank you I am glad you enjoyed the post and got a laugh or two from it, I really enjoyed writing it too.
      Wishing you all the best in your blogging journey.
      Regards
      James

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  5. When I look at other people’s blog I look for posts that I believe would genuinely add value to my life. I found this post to be valuable and I thank you for your contribution. I hope my blog can offer that kind of value to my readers.

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  6. This is great! I am still learning how to use WordPress and its community to get more traffic on my blog. I guess I didn’t realize that there was a better way to approach asking others to view my site. I tend to be more of a straight forward person, but am also very eager to be polite. This was definitely inspiring as I continue to educate myself on all things blog worthy.

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    1. Hi. Thanks for your comment. I think as long as a comment adds value and takes into consideration the original post content it’s good.

      A commenter who posts something interesting is more likely to get my attention than a blatant plug to visit a blog.

      Thanks for your comment.

      All the best
      James

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  7. Hi James, thanks so much for sharing the link to this post with me.
    I enjoyed reading it, and you’ve made some excellent points.

    I’ve come to realise that in many worlds (including the world of blogging), there are lots of people who are not really interested in me or the content on my blog, but they want to try and get some free advertising for their own blog. However, in a short sentence, they’ll tell me that I have a ‘Nice blog’ in the hope that I will approve their comment so others can then see their profile, or hope that I’ll go and visit and follow their blog. Unfortunately, there are a lot of bloggers who care more about the numbers than the content they are writing and publishing. These types of bloggers seem to come and go quickly.

    There are so many better ways of getting people to visit and follow our blogs than leaving short, unmeaningful comments all over the place. I know that sometimes we don’t always have the time to leave long comments, but, for me, one meaningful comment once every few months is worth hundreds of short meaningless comments.

    As for the uninvited link-droppers, I edit their comment and remove any uninvited links before approving the comment. I’ve found that by doing this, many of the link-droppers either no longer leave uninvited links in comments on any of my blog post, or realise I’m on to them in their attempt to get some free advertising. If the comment includes nothing but a ‘hi, I love your blog’ and a link to their blog, I mark it as spam and send it to the spam bin.

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    1. A part of me feels that some use blogging as a form of validation to go along with whatever other social media accounts they have. As we know though writing a blog post takes a lot of effort so ratio of time taken/likes received is generally a poor return rate.
      There is a general entitlement to be noticed, but with the amount of things in the online/offline world, I generally feel it’s healthier to go in no expectations of how many people ‘should’ be reading your blog.
      I do notice a high churn rate and honestly if I got a £$ everytime I read a blog post complaining the reception a blog/post has received, I probably would genuinely be able to make a living off blogging!
      Agree with you regarding comments, I do like to engage as there is nothing worse than feeling “has an actually read this properly”, but I’d rather give quality than quantity. With my own time constraints I try and give at least one comment with decent feedback/thoughts.
      I do like your approach to the uninvited link droppers!
      My personal focus is trying to add value both as a writer and being a part of the blogging community – I want people to read my content, but I don’t want my reputation to be that of a shill.
      I’ve been running my blog for over six years now and a part of me does feel I’m partly cynical, but then I recognise it’s important to educate newer bloggers on appropriate etiquette of behaviour – like if they were at a party.
      Thanks for commenting!

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  8. I would be irritated by a remark like that as well, I’m not comfortable asking people to look at my blog and have never asked. Although I am guilty of saying great photos and stuff like that, after reading your post I will try harder 🤭

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    1. Thanks Alison. I think I’ve softened my views slightly since writing this post – if I get someone simply saying “great post”, I just take it as a compliment, though have to admit if I’ve not built a relationship with them through past work it doesn’t compel me to go check them out.

      Sometimes there are posts which don’t have much you can say about them. If I decide I want to comment with a compliment I’ll just pick out a specific bit that I liked, I might even copy/paste the paragraph in quotes just to say how much it resonated/made me laugh etc.

      Thanks for taking the time to comment 🙂
      All the best
      James

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      1. I like to have a look at someone’s blog whose left a comment or like to repay the compliment although some blogs are a bit strange and I can think of nothing to say🤭

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      2. Ha ha, I know what you mean, there are times I get a blogger from a niche type of hobby such as quilting – not knowing anything about the subject matter makes it hard to comment!

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  9. I came over via Hugh’s link. This is a topic that many bloggers will agree on. Sometimes there is not a great deal to say about a post except a simple and complimentary word or two, but most posts have enough in them to allow more than that. I, and most bloggers, will always follow a well constructed comment, complimentary or not, back to source and ‘check out the blog’ without being asked. To follow a generic comment with a demand for reciprocity is hardly the best way to gain readers and I very rarely accede to such requests.

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    1. Thanks Sue – my general unwritten rule is ‘if you comment, I’ll come see what your blog is about’, the only exception is if I feel the person is making a demand.

      Comments are a great way to gain feedback on your work – everytime I write a post I’m trying to invoke an emotion from the reader, a comment shows if I’ve done what I intended 🙂

      Thanks very much for taking the time to comment.
      James

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  10. Hello James,
    I found you through a reblog on Hugh’s Views & News. What an informative post you have given us. I especially liked your mention of grammar. I find myself less tolerant of poor grammar the older I get. Hope I’m not turning into a grumpy old lady. lol. I also infer tone from the written word, so I try to be aware of that in my own blog posts. Regardless, I’ll be adding you to my reading list for more information and entertainment.
    Thanks for your post. I enjoyed it.

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    1. Thanks Gina, I’m glad Hugh was able to put you in my direction 🙂

      The English language is fascinating, especially when written out – one slight error can change how we interpret something, like a generic request to go check someones blog out, to sounding demanding and rude!

      I have to be careful what I say as grammar isn’t my strong point, but like to think it’s improve from all the years of blog writing.

      Thank you very much for taking the time to comment and checking my blog out (double checks grammar before selecting ‘Post Comment) 😅

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  11. I totally agree with the points you raised. It’s the same with generic or mass generated emails asking for reviews when the person obviously hasn’t looked at my blog, the genres I read and review or even the review policy. They go straight in the trash.

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    1. Thanks Cathy. I think this is why it’s important to get build a relationship with a blogger before throwing in self-interested request.

      In your situation they would get a better understanding of the type of content you are interested in and are actually wasting their time with the mass email approach.

      Thanks very much for your comment, much appreciated!

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    1. It’s something I’ve never done either, I think I once put in a post because it was relevant to what was being shared, but after that I decided to avoid pasting any links unless the poster requested further details.

      Only time to post a link to your blog in my opinion is if the originally poster is asking for blogs to look at/critique.

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  12. Hi James,
    Thanks for the blog, it’s clear from the number of comments you’ve received that it resonates with a lot of people. I have a similar experience as a song-writer, I have people who have started following me on the the streaming service Soundcloud, which if you’re not aware is mainly a music sharing site for musicians and song-writers. Many start following me without actually listening to any of my songs but they do it so I’ll automatically start following them back. This makes their Followers numbers look good and they gamble I might listen to their music and share it with other people. But by not listening to my songs it’s showing they aren’t actually interested in me so I don’t follow them back.

    Thankfully, like bloggers, most song-writers/musicians are a supportive bunch of people and are still make up the majority of participants.

    Best Wishes,

    Paul

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    1. Thanks for your comment Paul.

      It’s unfortunately one of those cliches in the blogging world (hence the popularity of this post), and is no stranger to any medium – where people have something they want seen, small subtleties like taking the time to read/listen, building relationships or just putting a thoughtful comment are greatly underrated and in the long run effective.

      With analytics you can quite quickly workout who is genuine and who doesn’t – I’m quick to ignore the latter.

      Follow counts look impressive, but mean nothing if no one is interested in what’s produced, in my experience what you put out you get in return, so if you want people to genuinely care about whatever it is you choose to do, you have to do the same to others.

      Best of luck with your work.
      James

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  13. I came here from Hugh’s site, James. I take a lot of time to leave comments and create blogging relationships. So if someone leaves me a comment that says, “Great post,” I give them the benefit of the doubt and will return a visit and comment. It doesn’t take long to find out if the comment was an empty or genuine (however inept) attempt to connect. I simply delete comments that say “Great post, follow my blog.” Those aren’t worth my time. There is definitely an etiquette that makes blogging meaningful and socially successful. Great post. LOL

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    1. Thanks, my position has softened on someone writing ‘great post’ a bit since writing this – I take this as a complement more than spamming with a generic comment. Like you say you soon find out what it genuine and what isn’t.
      I view blogging as a process for improvement – comments being the ideal opportunity to get feedback, if I just get ‘great post’ I’ll take it, ha ha!

      Thanks very much for taking the time to comment.
      James

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  14. Fascinating post James, I thought it was just me that disliked that ‘look at me’ type of comment. Even worse are the ones with a link pasted in too, I have to admit that I always edit those links out but I do reply thanking them for their comment. It’s obviously a major way of generating traffic but you’ve got to be realistic I think and see that people will visit your blog if they are interested in it rather than being emotionally forced to. We’re all in the same boat though so it’s understandable.

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    1. Thanks Jonno, I know it’s not just you – I got fed up of the take, take, bloggers a while ago – we’re all grinding away at our own thing, these types seem to want instant results.

      Problem when blogging get down to ‘check out my link, I’ll check yours’ it’s just a bunch of people without emotional investment or interest in the content they are reading.

      Thanks very much for stopping by!
      James

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  15. I have also popped over from Hugh’s site…A good post James and some valid points…Links to other sites with no comments I just spam although last week it was on a subject I had blogged on so I did have a look and it was a good post however they just didn’t say anything apart from offering a link and don’t respond to others comments on their posts so I spammed them as it just came across as… me, me, me…with no attempt to communicate with others…Manners as you stated go a long way….Stay safe and well 🙂

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    1. Thanks for your comment Carol. I certainly would be unsure of clicking a link without explanation what it takes me to.

      There are some great blogs out there that post on subject matter of interest. But if tend to act selfishly – not even responding to comments then I do ignore.

      Thanks for stopping by – take care 🙂

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  16. A great to a starter. this is filled with some brilliant strategies to be kept in mind while publishing a blog reach more people. Will be happy to follow these. Thanks for sharing such good information.

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