Let’s talk about passive aggression towards men’s mental health

It was another day at the office, as I prepared my morning breakfast I got involved in the usual kitchen conversations: “Did you hear about Mike?” Ellie my colleague asked, with a touch of sneer in her voice “…he’s quit to go work helping men or something…” Ellie gave a smirk, the type you give … Continue reading Let’s talk about passive aggression towards men’s mental health

Take the real world offline challenge!

Take the real world offline challenge! This has been a good week! I've been off work and utilised my free time spending it with my family. My intention was to spend a bit more on writing, but that didn't work out as I felt more driven to spend time offline, focus on my family and … Continue reading Take the real world offline challenge!

4 tricks to take control of your emotions

4 tricks to take control of your emotions Emotions drive humans in our experiences - it can be the difference between finding joy and happiness, to frustration and anger in a situation. Yet most people let emotion dictate their lives reacting on impulses to anger and being quick to tell themselves negative thoughts. Want to … Continue reading 4 tricks to take control of your emotions

You are not your job

You are not your job My adult life self-worth has put way to much emphasis on: how much I get paid how important my job sounds how many people I'm 'in charge' of how often I 'advance' This drive has resulted in a loss of sight of the big picture - happiness, wellbeing and family. … Continue reading You are not your job

Goals to look after your wellbeing

Goals to look after your wellbeing One in four people in the United Kingdom will experience a mental health problem according to Time to Change. A lack of ambition creates the feeling of hopelessness of not having a purpose in life. Although mental health can be complex actions can be taken and having goals can … Continue reading Goals to look after your wellbeing

Disaster Strikes! Steps to building a resilient mind in the face of adversity

Disaster Strikes! Steps to building a resilient mind in the face of adversity We all have good weeks and bad weeks. When I worked in the Child Protection unit, I was overseen by my incompetent manager Lesley. And she absolutely despised me! These types of managers were dime a dozen during my time in local … Continue reading Disaster Strikes! Steps to building a resilient mind in the face of adversity

Enjoy the journey

Upon undertaking the journey of self-improvement an individual typically finds they go through three stages of emotions in the quest to live a more fulfilling life. Elation When a decision to self-improve is made, one commits to deliberate effort addressing what they want in life; typically this comes in the form of setting goals and … Continue reading Enjoy the journey

The Best Revenge

Writing this blog gives me a lot of opportunity to reflect on my life - I have referred to it many times as "free therapy" because just by writing through my problems, reflecting and explaining what I intended to do has helped me get through some tough times. I sometimes come across unwanted reflection as I start … Continue reading The Best Revenge

How did we all become such miserable bastards?

In the western world we live in a very privileged society.  We have safety, comfort and the freedom of leisure in ways that our ancestors never experienced. So, what I am wondering is... How did we all become such miserable bastards? I walk along the street and spot people with glum faces.  You give a … Continue reading How did we all become such miserable bastards?

Race Day Mistakes

From my experience of racing (i.e. running and obstacle races) I have noted a number of mistakes.  Because I am not perfect, I have even done a few myself: Drinking the night before This might seem an obvious mistake, but at nearly every obstacle race I have seen someone do this. I find this surprising … Continue reading Race Day Mistakes