5 Factors of Self-Guilt and How to Respond

Hi folks, I wanted to follow-up on my post Lessons in Assertiveness: Say What You Want, to share some thoughts about a common situation where assertiveness is important. To start, I want to ask you have you ever experienced these feelings when making a decision in life: Do you feel guilty when you do something … Continue reading 5 Factors of Self-Guilt and How to Respond

Lessons in Assertiveness: Say What You Want

A simple trick I picked up on assertiveness training was the importance to be open and honest with thoughts. You might feel uncomfortable not saying what you want as you perceive, what you will say is not popular with the room. Yet quite often, this is nothing but fear, actually everyone else in the room … Continue reading Lessons in Assertiveness: Say What You Want

Assert Yourself! How to Not Be a Pushover When You Don’t Want to Do Something

Your life is your life... So why do you allow yourself to be pushed into doing things you don't want to do? The time you have is precious - you only get this opportunity once, why waste it on people, projects, activities that don't interest you? If you have problems asserting yourself, check out the … Continue reading Assert Yourself! How to Not Be a Pushover When You Don’t Want to Do Something

The Battle…

The Battle... Life throws up challenges which you can either fight, endure or give up on. Dependent on the situation none of these options are necessarily a bad thing. The gym is a testing ground; it builds your character, and has been the foundation of my confidence, self-belief, determination, and persistence. I don’t know what … Continue reading The Battle…

Manifesto Reinvented

When I first started this blog, I didn’t have a clue what I was doing… In some ways I still don’t know… But I do know I’m better at this, than when I first started… And that’s what you want in life, isn’t it?... Origins… Originally a space to keep accountable to my goals, Perfect … Continue reading Manifesto Reinvented

What is your mantra?

What is your mantra? Several years ago, I was invited to a job interview. Arriving in usual early fashion, I perched myself on a bench inside Leeds train station, killing time with last-minute research. Prior to the interview I was a wreck. Getting this job wasn’t about a promotion or more money – it was … Continue reading What is your mantra?

Lesson in assertiveness: Time is precious

Lesson in assertiveness: Time is precious This weekend I enjoyed a pub lunch with friends. As my schedule is really busy it's a great opportunity see people I haven't seen for a while. I enjoyed the catchup so so much I finished off the meal with a digestif at the bar. Afterwards we headed back … Continue reading Lesson in assertiveness: Time is precious

The interview: Tell me about yourself

One of my favourite interview questions is: "So... Tell me about yourself?" I like this question, not because it's particular good or useful but because it's so vague that without prior thought and preparation it's sure to go wrong. It's certainly the best question to hear funny anecdotes of bad responses. "Yes... well... my names … Continue reading The interview: Tell me about yourself

Networking tips: be the useful expert

Networking tips: be the useful expert When I first started working I  viewed networking as a bunch of people who don't know each other at some event making small talk and handing out business cards. Because cold approaching a stranger made me feel uncomfortable, I shunned networking, accepting the created view it was nothing but … Continue reading Networking tips: be the useful expert

Aim Higher

Many of us setting goals severely underestimate the value of our potential and our ability to aim higher. By the low expectations we have and the lack of self-belief in ourselves mean we are living a life of constant underachievement. We seethe in the corner as people we perceive as 'arrogant' get all the breaks - all … Continue reading Aim Higher

On confidence

Over the last several years I have been on a mission to increase my confidence.  I am better than I used to be but still have some bad habits.  Until recently I was blissfully unaware until I got some feedback from my last job interview "you know your stuff but you need to show more … Continue reading On confidence

Fēijī

Fēijī - it means Airplane in Mandarin Chinese. When I was at University we had the option to do an  additional language course on top of the regular degree.  As it was evening study the courses weren't too popular as most students were too busy getting drunk.  But studying Business it seemed logical to learn Mandarin. Upon … Continue reading Fēijī