How to make an impact when you follow in a successful person’s footsteps

Following in the footsteps of someone who is exceptionally talented can be a daunting and intimidating prospect.

Whether it is with work where you take on the job of someone who is described as “invaluable” “a massive loss when they left” or “did so much for us” to having family or friends who are massive successes in your own right.

This can all put a bit of pressure on you where you will just feel inadequate and maybe even think “it’s not even worth trying – I will never be as good at them!”

The temptation is to quit or just be average at best and not care what other people say. But mediocrity is not the best approach to life.  There are other ways of making your own mark – even against someone who sounds like the second coming of Jesus Christ himself! Continue reading “How to make an impact when you follow in a successful person’s footsteps”

You are your friends

This post was originally posted in March 2015 and has been reposted to illustrate some of the work I am writing on Medium.com.

“Birds of a feather flock together”

Friends are the biggest influence in our lives, even more than family.

If you don’t believe me, look at many school reports for badly behaved children.  They will be full of things like:

He is a good person, he’s just in the wrong crowd.,,,,

She has potential but her choice of friendship groups is questionable….

Tom is a negative influence on him…

And it is important to realise this if you want to make your life better – because essentially, you are, who your friends are.

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How am I going to make someone’s life better today?

6am, the alarm on my phone plays its upbeat jingle, it’s called Over the Horizon yet I don’t feel like that.  Motivation to pull myself out of bed will do for the moment. Continue reading “How am I going to make someone’s life better today?”

The Best Revenge

best-revenge

Writing this blog gives me a lot of opportunity to reflect on my life – I have referred to it many times as “free therapy” because just by writing through my problems, reflecting and explaining what I intended to do has helped me get through some tough times.

I sometimes come across unwanted reflection as I start to dig deeper and I get that horrible twitch in my head of when I have been truly wronged. Continue reading “The Best Revenge”

A long time…

Many years ago I was on a night out with University friends.  After many drinks I sat settled in the corner, I got talking with a girl on my course and some how we got to discussing her traveler background.  This led to the revelation that she had the ‘sight’ – the skill of being able to see into the future.

“Would you like me to read your palm?” she said.

I laughed and said sure… I wasn’t quite sure if she was actually serious, but next thing I know she grabbed my hand and started to read my palm…. Continue reading “A long time…”

Learning how to drive

Trying to Passing my driving test, exposed me to some of the worst advice I ever received.

“You’ve failed your test, just book straight back onto it…”

this didn’t consider that I should reflect where I went wrong or find a better teacher – this resulted in a waste of time and money.

Learning

A Pattern of Failure…

The first time I took my driving test, it was a disaster.  I had got myself all worked about passing my test that I was shaking before I even started. Continue reading “Learning how to drive”

Can’t hide forever

I am in a most unfortunate situation.  I work in a building where my ex works.

We don’t work for the same company thank God!  But she works for the business that has the floor space a couple of levels down.

I always accepted that there was a likelihood I would bump into her.

And up to this point my strategy for handling the situation has been to take cover and hide wherever possible.
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