The sense of it all

My dad joked when my daughter was born “Facebook has replaced the newspaper for announcements”

It was a statement I couldn’t help think and laugh about (perhaps inappropriately) when I read about the premature death of a former work colleague.

The Internet is supposed to bring us closer together, I can read hundreds of unsolicited opinions on the President across the pond paying off a hooker; yet it took over a year for someone who I knew, someone who lived about 20 miles away was no longer of this Earth.

A part of me can’t believe that not one person said to me “James were you aware…”

I only realised after another ex-colleagues, made a one-year anniversary reflection post.  I had been living my life to miss the news first time around and I thought what I was doing to miss this; I think I was worrying about some problem at work… insignificant in the scheme of life.

I couldn’t help see the bitter irony that as one family mourned the end of a life, my wife and myself were overjoyed and preparing for the baby scheduled to come into our life.

As a reflex I texted a dozen friends and family members sending my love and asking how they were doing.  It’s funny how death sucker punches you in the face making you appreciate who you do have.

The disappointing thing about not knowing was it came off like I did not cared, I cared… Continue reading “The sense of it all”

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Slight return

It took nearly seven months before I decided to publish on the Manifesto of Perfection again, the place I recorded my thoughts and opinions of all things self-improvement.

Last week I marked my return, where for the first time ever I featured work that wasn’t my own – a beautiful poem by Charles Bukowski ‘So you want to be a writer?’

I can’t promise it will change your life or anything, but it reminded me why I enjoy writing  – expressing oneself, relieving stress, someone appreciates your work, the natural inspiration process, artistic integrity.  I knew it was time to return.

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The Manifesto of Perfection – Where to Start?

Hi all,

I have recently taken the time to update and add my ‘Where to Start’ page to the sites menu.  This is a place for new and established readers alike to have a look at some of my favourite posts since I started the site in February 2014.

I have broke these down into the following areas:

  • Creativity – Posts about writing, blogging and general creativity
  • Health – Posts about nutrition and fitness
  • Money – Posts about work and finances
  • Self-Improvement – Posts about goals, mindset, habits and generally living a better life

I will probably update this page again soon.  But please see a copy of the links on this page below to see if there are any posts that take an interest.

Finally thank you for continuing to read, liking and commenting on my site.  I appreciate all feedback! Continue reading “The Manifesto of Perfection – Where to Start?”

Why bucket lists are bad and why you should shun them

Let’s say I asked you to put together a bucket list – a list of things that you want to do before you die.

Before reading on just take a minute to think about what those things would be.

Done it? Okay I will continue…

Without even knowing you I bet it included something of the following:

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Frankly my dear I don’t give a damn

What’s in a word?

I don’t like the use of needless profanity, despite research suggesting that those who swear are more intelligent, I have to disagree – it shows a lack of education, a control of temperament and class.

Put it this way I worked in child protection and I met some people who were ridiculously foul mouthed – those people weren’t completing their master’s degree.  Hell, some of those people couldn’t even get a job shoveling shit. Continue reading “Frankly my dear I don’t give a damn”

Yamas! Enjoy life like a Greek islander

I have just come back from Rhodes, a Greek island and life there seemed so much simpler than what we have in the UK.

Rhodes – a Greek island, but nearer Turkey

The jobs seem to mostly relate to tourism (or are a byproduct created because of tourism) and as a result the people who live there work so hard in the tourist season and presumably in the off season get a chance to rest.

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A long time…

Many years ago I was on a night out with University friends.  After many drinks I sat settled in the corner, I got talking with a girl on my course and some how we got to discussing her traveler background.  This led to the revelation that she had the ‘sight’ – the skill of being able to see into the future.

“Would you like me to read your palm?” she said.

I laughed and said sure… I wasn’t quite sure if she was actually serious, but next thing I know she grabbed my hand and started to read my palm…. Continue reading “A long time…”

Learning how to drive

Trying to Passing my driving test, exposed me to some of the worst advice I ever received.

“You’ve failed your test, just book straight back onto it…”

this didn’t consider that I should reflect where I went wrong or find a better teacher – this resulted in a waste of time and money.

Learning

A Pattern of Failure…

The first time I took my driving test, it was a disaster.  I had got myself all worked about passing my test that I was shaking before I even started. Continue reading “Learning how to drive”

How I make the most of time

It was a regular Wednesday morning – where I always get the train to work.  The only difference was that my alarm did not go off.

With 20 minutes to get ready it was a difficult task to get the train – usually it takes me at least 20 minutes alone to get ready!

clock

Almost defeated I was ready to roll over and go back to bed.  Then something in my head said Come on if you are quick you can do this!”

I jumped out of bed, cleaned myself up, threw all my things in my bag, grabbed some breakfast and drove down to the station.  When I arrived I expected to be making a mad dash for the train.  I checked my watch – I had 2 minutes to spare.

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How do you handle a bragger?

If there is one type of attribute I despise in a person it is a lack of humility.

But it is inevitable in life that we will encounter braggers on a regular basis.

The best approach for these people – absolutely nothing.

I came to this conclusion, because the reason a person may brag is that they are insecure and seeking validation.  By not reacting you starve them of this.  But there is temptation to take another approach.  Here, I explain why you shouldn’t:

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