Several years ago my life was a mess, despite ambition and a strong work ethic, I saw little to no results.
With hindsight my priorities were out of order I was volunteering for an environmental charity where I was focused on trying to make the world better. This was not making life better and I was a burden to those who loved me the most.
This made me realise there is no point trying to change the world when I can’t even change my own life.
The next day I quit working for the charity, vowing to sort myself out. Continue reading “Out of step (with the world)”
If you want to see improvement in your life, the most essential thing that you need to do is ensure you stick to a regular routine
“The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine”
Continue reading “Focus on routine”
Following in the footsteps of someone who is exceptionally talented can be a daunting and intimidating prospect.
Whether it is with work where you take on the job of someone who is described as “invaluable” “a massive loss when they left” or “did so much for us” to having family or friends who are massive successes in your own right.
This can all put a bit of pressure on you where you will just feel inadequate and maybe even think “it’s not even worth trying – I will never be as good at them!”
The temptation is to quit or just be average at best and not care what other people say. But mediocrity is not the best approach to life. There are other ways of making your own mark – even against someone who sounds like the second coming of Jesus Christ himself! Continue reading “How to make an impact when you follow in a successful person’s footsteps”
Some of my success has been limited by my lack of ability to aim higher.
The problem with setting goals that are clearly quantified is that you can quite easily set a target that is too small or not challenging enough.
One things that sticks in my mind was at an interview where I was pushed on how much I felt I should get paid. I gave a pathetically low amount.
My fear was that if I said too much I would have put them off straight away – my logic was that I was offering them a bargain – they interpreted it that I didn’t value my time.
The lesson there was that I should have aimed higher – even if I did give an amount that was too high, I could have negotiated and still got a wage that would have worked out well for both parties – myself getting paid more and the company thinking they got a true bargain as they had negotiated my wage down!
Continue reading “Aim higher”
This post was originally posted in March 2015 and has been reposted to illustrate some of the work I am writing on Medium.com.
“Birds of a feather flock together”
Friends are the biggest influence in our lives, even more than family.
If you don’t believe me, look at many school reports for badly behaved children. They will be full of things like:
He is a good person, he’s just in the wrong crowd.,,,,
She has potential but her choice of friendship groups is questionable….
Tom is a negative influence on him…
And it is important to realise this if you want to make your life better – because essentially, you are, who your friends are.
Continue reading “You are your friends”
The most common about approach to setting successful goals are usually the best and I am sure that you have heard of SMART objectives.
But I don’t like to assume – if you have been hiding under a rock, here is what they mean:
Continue reading “Use SMART objectives to achieve your goals”
Working my way around the shops the other day I heard a young teenage girl hysterically cry
“Oh! This would happen to meee!!!”
Apart from the obvious victim status negative thinking – this highlighted a large number of people’s inability to take responsibility for their own mistakes.
Continue reading “With great power comes great responsibility”
Over the last several years I have been on a mission to increase my confidence. I am better than I used to be but still have some bad habits. Until recently I was blissfully unaware until I got some feedback from my last job interview
“you know your stuff but you need to show more confidence in yourself”
This was pretty surprising as I thought I was coming across confident. Upon reflection I realise that there are areas that I can focus on to make myself appear more confident.
Continue reading “On confidence”
Is there any benefit to setting goals or should I just stop talking and do it?
This is a question I have been pondering a lot recently. If you have read my blog for a while you will probably be aware that I use it as a format to log and keep track of my goals.
But as I look through my old posts and see goals that I didn’t achieve (or maybe never even started) I began questioning whether I should just save the time of even putting any thought into the process and focus energy onto action. Continue reading “Goals vs Actions”
If there is one type of attribute I despise in a person it is a lack of humility.
But it is inevitable in life that we will encounter braggers on a regular basis.
The best approach for these people – absolutely nothing.
I came to this conclusion, because the reason a person may brag is that they are insecure and seeking validation. By not reacting you starve them of this. But there is temptation to take another approach. Here, I explain why you shouldn’t:
Continue reading “How do you handle a bragger?”