With great power comes great responsibility

Working my way around the shops the other day I heard a young teenage girl hysterically cry

“Oh!  This would happen to meee!!!”

Apart from the obvious victim status negative thinking – this highlighted a large number of people’s inability to take responsibility for their own mistakes.

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On confidence

Over the last several years I have been on a mission to increase my confidence.  I am better than I used to be but still have some bad habits.  Until recently I was blissfully unaware until I got some feedback from my last job interview

“you know your stuff but you need to show more confidence in yourself”

This was pretty surprising as I thought I was coming across confident.  Upon reflection I realise that there are areas that I can focus on to make myself appear more confident.

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Goals vs Actions

Is there any benefit to setting goals or should I just stop talking and do it?

This is a question I have been pondering a lot recently.  If you have read my blog for a while you will probably be aware that I use it as a format to log and keep track of my goals.

But as I look through my old posts and see goals that I didn’t achieve (or maybe never even started) I began questioning whether I should just save the time of even putting any thought into the process and focus energy onto action. Continue reading

How do you handle a bragger?

If there is one type of attribute I despise in a person it is a lack of humility.

But it is inevitable in life that we will encounter braggers on a regular basis.

The best approach – absolutely nothing.

I came to this conclusion, because the reason a person may brag is that they are insecure and seeking validation.  By not reacting you starve them of this.  But there is temptation to take another approach.  Here, I explain why you shouldn’t:

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Where am I next year?

I got to a point in my life where I realised the only guarantee you have is what you have today is what you have got tomorrow (subject to any major disaster).

If you take no actions, risks or accept responsibility for your own fate – you will still most likely be in the same position. Continue reading

The Priority Levels

As I get older I realise how much my priorities in life have been all out of whack.

I have done a lot of reading about successful people and I notice a general trend of how they prioritise their own lives. Continue reading

Can you change jobs too much?

One of the biggest myths I was told about developing my career is:

“If you change jobs too much it looks bad on your career”

I have heard this a number of times and for a time I believed it.  So I have felt the need to put 1+ year into a job that offered no development or improvement, because of imagined disapproval from a potential employer.

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Everyone could potentially be a leader

I was reading a book on leadership, when someone remarked “Aspiring to be a manager are we…”

There still seems to be a wide confusion between being a leader and being in charge.

So to put it clearer – you may call yourself a manager or the boss – but that doesn’t mean you are a leader. Continue reading

New Year Goals – The Progress so far

My current goals were last updated in January.

Here is my quarterly review for how I have been progressing.

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Make time for your loved ones

So much to do in a day, yet so little time to work on my goals.

If I have been out with Vicky, talked to my mum, gone walking with my dad or helped out my brother, I can forgive myself for shirking on my goals.

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“Always make time for your loved ones.  They are your life and the reason you strive to be more…..”


GOALSETTING

Manifesto of Perfection – Goal Setting Month