Gratitude 2019

As we head into 2019 – the year which will mark the anniversary of my blog running for five years, it seems the perfect opportunity to reflect what I am grateful for.

To feel nothing but gratitude for the year to come is pretty poignant – I remember starting 2014, with feelings of dread as there was nothing to look forward towards.

The original conception of this whole blog stemmed from one small idea of a massive list of all my wants and desires in an attempt to find that hope.

That list soon refined as I learned more about myself – what was really important to me.  Going further my goals and ambitions have undergone further refinement, revisions, and additions throughout the years.

So onto gratitude…

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Why do you want more money?

In my last post I discussed about keeping goals simple.  A major part of this is how important it is to apply a metric to any goals that you set so that there is room for measurement as you progress.

This got me thinking about a goal that is very easy to apply a metric to that I would say 99.9% of people in the self-improvement field possess.  Of  course, I’m talking about –

Money

Money goals come in many forms:

  • To get a job that earns ‘X’.
  • Be a millionaire.
  • Make ‘X’ amount a month in passive income.
  • I want to be rich.
  • I want to be debt free.
  • Increase my business profit.

Some of these read better than others, applying a metric is better than a vague aspirational statement saying –  “I want to be a millionaire” is worthless, as it is nothing but a dream without any clear plans in place or a clear why you want to achieve that goal. Continue reading “Why do you want more money?”

How to keep your goals simple

The Internet really over complicates goal setting.

If it is not recommending the ‘best’ app to record your goals, it offers a platitude of content at the users’ disposal.  Many a cunning person has exploited this, as if by applying a monetary value their advice is seen more impactful, when it is just another piece of the same old regurgitated advice from across the globe.

Here is how it should be:

  1. Choose how you want to record your goals.
  2. Come up with what you want to achieve.
  3. Make a plan for it and put this into practice.
  4. (After much effort and habit) get a result.

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Out of step (with the world)

Several years ago my life was a mess, despite ambition and a strong work ethic, I saw little to no results.

With hindsight my priorities were out of order I was volunteering for an environmental charity where I was focused on trying to make the world better.  This was not making life better and I was a burden to those who loved me the most.

This made me realise there is no point trying to change the world when I can’t even change my own life.

The next day I quit working for the charity, vowing to sort myself out. Continue reading “Out of step (with the world)”

Focus on routine

If you want to see improvement in your life, the most essential thing that you need to do is ensure you stick to a regular routine

“The secret of your future is hidden in your daily routine”

Mike Murdock

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How to make an impact when you follow in a successful person’s footsteps

Following in the footsteps of someone who is exceptionally talented can be a daunting and intimidating prospect.

Whether it is with work where you take on the job of someone who is described as “invaluable” “a massive loss when they left” or “did so much for us” to having family or friends who are massive successes in your own right.

This can all put a bit of pressure on you where you will just feel inadequate and maybe even think “it’s not even worth trying – I will never be as good at them!”

The temptation is to quit or just be average at best and not care what other people say. But mediocrity is not the best approach to life.  There are other ways of making your own mark – even against someone who sounds like the second coming of Jesus Christ himself! Continue reading “How to make an impact when you follow in a successful person’s footsteps”

Aim higher

Some of my success has been limited by my lack of ability to aim higher.

The problem with setting goals that are clearly quantified is that you can quite easily set a target that is too small or not challenging enough.

One things that sticks in my mind was at an interview where I was pushed on how much I felt I should get paid.  I gave a pathetically low amount.

My fear was that if I said too much I would have put them off straight away – my logic was that I was offering them a bargain – they interpreted it that I didn’t value my time.

The lesson there was that I should have aimed higher – even if I did give an amount that was too high, I could have negotiated and still got a wage that would have worked out well for both parties – myself getting paid more and the company thinking they got a true bargain as they had negotiated my wage down!
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You are your friends

This post was originally posted in March 2015 and has been reposted to illustrate some of the work I am writing on Medium.com.

“Birds of a feather flock together”

Friends are the biggest influence in our lives, even more than family.

If you don’t believe me, look at many school reports for badly behaved children.  They will be full of things like:

He is a good person, he’s just in the wrong crowd.,,,,

She has potential but her choice of friendship groups is questionable….

Tom is a negative influence on him…

And it is important to realise this if you want to make your life better – because essentially, you are, who your friends are.

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Use SMART objectives to achieve your goals

The most common about approach to setting successful goals are usually the best and I am sure that you have heard of SMART objectives.

But I don’t like to assume – if you have been hiding under a rock, here is what they mean:

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With great power comes great responsibility

Working my way around the shops the other day I heard a young teenage girl hysterically cry

“Oh!  This would happen to meee!!!”

Apart from the obvious victim status negative thinking – this highlighted a large number of people’s inability to take responsibility for their own mistakes.

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