With great power comes great responsibility

Working my way around the shops the other day I heard a young teenage girl hysterically cry

“Oh!  This would happen to meee!!!”

Apart from the obvious victim status negative thinking – this highlighted a large number of people’s inability to take responsibility for their own mistakes.

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How not to be a pushover

This post on assertiveness was originally posted on March 2015.

I set this development goal on something originally set called ‘Stop looking after my friends so much’.

The last few months has been a key few months.  I have started my new job, but realise (and have been told) that I lack the confidence to express my opinions.

assertive

Sure there is a limit – there are people who just like to be disagreeable, but I realise that if I do not start standing up for myself, this will impact my life and by default many of my goals and aspirations.

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Starting an Emergency Fund

moneyLast year I was struggling financially.

It is not that I am a spender, it just seemed that suddenly I had a load of costs that came out of nowhere –

I dropped my phone down the toilet and had to buy a cheap replacement, a friend was getting married at an expensive hotel, I had just bought a car and I was still in the early days of a relationship so had spent a lot of money going out on dates.

If one more tragic emergency occurred I would be in dept and have to rely on savings – which I did not want to do as that is for my future. Continue reading

How not to be a pushover

In January I set myself the goal to ‘Be more assertive’.

This was a development on a goal I had originally set called ‘Stop looking after my friends so much’.

The last few months has been a key few months – for developing the importance of this goal.  I have started my new job, but realise (and have been told) that I lack the confidence to express my opinions).

assertive

Sure there is a limit – there are people who just like to be disagreeable, but I realise that if I do not start standing up for myself, this will effect my life and by default many of my goals and aspirations.

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