With great power comes great responsibility

Working my way around the shops the other day I heard a young teenage girl hysterically cry

“Oh!  This would happen to meee!!!”

Apart from the obvious victim status negative thinking – this highlighted a large number of people’s inability to take responsibility for their own mistakes.

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How not to be a pushover

This post on assertiveness was originally posted on March 2015.

I set this development goal on something originally set called ‘Stop looking after my friends so much’.

The last few months has been a key few months.  I have started my new job, but realise (and have been told) that I lack the confidence to express my opinions.

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Sure there is a limit – there are people who just like to be disagreeable, but I realise that if I do not start standing up for myself, this will impact my life and by default many of my goals and aspirations.

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On confidence

Over the last several years I have been on a mission to increase my confidence.  I am better than I used to be but still have some bad habits.  Until recently I was blissfully unaware until I got some feedback from my last job interview

“you know your stuff but you need to show more confidence in yourself”

This was pretty surprising as I thought I was coming across confident.  Upon reflection I realise that there are areas that I can focus on to make myself appear more confident.

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The Best Revenge

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Writing this blog gives me a lot of opportunity to reflect on my life – I have referred to it many times as “free therapy” because just by writing through my problems, reflecting and explaining what I intended to do has helped me get through some tough times.

I sometimes come across unwanted reflection as I start to dig deeper and I get that horrible twitch in my head of when I have been truly wronged. Continue reading

Fēijī

Fēijī – it means Airplane in Mandarin Chinese.

When I was at University we had the option to do an  additional language course on top of the regular degree.  As it was evening study the courses weren’t too popular as most students were too busy getting drunk.  But studying Business it seemed logical to learn Mandarin. Continue reading

The 3 Most Important Pull up exercises

Following on from my post on How to improve your pull up power, I thought it was worth sharing this video from Calisthenic Movement to answer the question “I can’t do any pull ups – how do I get started?”

Please see there video below

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Fearing the future

Ricky the temp is being his usual sassy self.  I am in an adult job now, but his bitchy manner to me feels like bullying.  All because I don’t want to divulge my sex life at work.

For some reason he uses this as an opportunity to have a dig at me at every opportunity.  Normally a temp would get canned quickly if they got a bit too big for their boots.  But Rick the prick was clever and charmed the management so he was the golden boy who could do no wrong.

But he was low on my list of problems – I had been stuck doing this job for the last four years.  I felt I was destined destined for more, but whenever I tried to better myself I just got put back down.  I had been snubbed for promotion twice in the last three months and had begun to question my future in the job. Continue reading

How to Improve your pull-up power

There was a time at the gym I could not do pull-ups and because of this I neglected to even try doing this.

Then I came across some advice on how to do more pull-ups and I was able to achieve more than mypathetic two pull-ups.  So whether you were hopeless like me or on a plateau where you can’t seem to improve try this: Continue reading

Goals vs Actions

Is there any benefit to setting goals or should I just stop talking and do it?

This is a question I have been pondering a lot recently.  If you have read my blog for a while you will probably be aware that I use it as a format to log and keep track of my goals.

But as I look through my old posts and see goals that I didn’t achieve (or maybe never even started) I began questioning whether I should just save the time of even putting any thought into the process and focus energy onto action. Continue reading

How do you handle a bragger?

If there is one type of attribute I despise in a person it is a lack of humility.

But it is inevitable in life that we will encounter braggers on a regular basis.

The best approach – absolutely nothing.

I came to this conclusion, because the reason a person may brag is that they are insecure and seeking validation.  By not reacting you starve them of this.  But there is temptation to take another approach.  Here, I explain why you shouldn’t:

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