As we head into 2019 – the year which will mark the anniversary of my blog running for five years, it seems the perfect opportunity to reflect what I am grateful for.
To feel nothing but gratitude for the year to come is pretty poignant – I remember starting 2014, with feelings of dread as there was nothing to look forward towards.
The original conception of this whole blog stemmed from one small idea of a massive list of all my wants and desires in an attempt to find that hope.
That list soon refined as I learned more about myself – what was really important to me. Going further my goals and ambitions have undergone further refinement, revisions, and additions throughout the years.
So onto gratitude…
Continue reading “Gratitude 2019”
If I have not said enough already, last year I became a father.
It took a while to really get back to focusing on my goals. Time is tight and there is the obvious distraction (i.e. a baby) but so far its all good, I feel motivated than ever and finding ways to make it work.
When I was reviewing my progress my wife asked the usual “What are you writing about?” type question, so I gave the standard answer about recording recent progress against my goals.
“Okay… do you have any family goals?”
I sat in silence for a moment… then I simply said “No”
It wasn’t really a difficult question I just hadn’t put in any thought into being a better father. When I really thought about it there was so many things I could do. Continue reading “Perfect father”
In my last post I discussed about keeping goals simple. A major part of this is how important it is to apply a metric to any goals that you set so that there is room for measurement as you progress.
This got me thinking about a goal that is very easy to apply a metric to that I would say 99.9% of people in the self-improvement field possess. Of course, I’m talking about –
Money goals come in many forms:
- To get a job that earns ‘X’.
- Be a millionaire.
- Make ‘X’ amount a month in passive income.
- I want to be rich.
- I want to be debt free.
- Increase my business profit.
Some of these read better than others, applying a metric is better than a vague aspirational statement saying – “I want to be a millionaire” is worthless, as it is nothing but a dream without any clear plans in place or a clear why you want to achieve that goal. Continue reading “Why do you want more money?”
The Internet really over complicates goal setting.
If it is not recommending the ‘best’ app to record your goals, it offers a platitude of content at the users’ disposal. Many a cunning person has exploited this, as if by applying a monetary value their advice is seen more impactful, when it is just another piece of the same old regurgitated advice from across the globe.
Here is how it should be:
- Choose how you want to record your goals.
- Come up with what you want to achieve.
- Make a plan for it and put this into practice.
- (After much effort and habit) get a result.
Continue reading “How to keep your goals simple”
Upon undertaking the journey of self-improvement an individual typically finds they go through three stages of emotions in the quest to live a more fulfilling life.
When a decision to self-improve is made, one commits to deliberate effort addressing what they want in life; typically this comes in the form of setting goals and undertaking research to inform and inspire such as books, recordings etc.
This is a discovery stage, where everything is new and many of the ideas is all new information. The improver will have feelings of elation as they embrace the words of great minds, gaining knowledge that is ‘life-changing’.
Because of its newness goals are achieved a lot quicker usually because niggling issues, ignored for years are addressed. Tangible improvements are seen to health, wealth and social life.
You think to how you were in the past and why you didn’t take control of your life years ago. But there is a naivety as the results are only ‘quick wins’, with many bigger challenges ahead, which leads to… Continue reading “Enjoy the journey”
Several years ago my life was a mess, despite ambition and a strong work ethic, I saw little to no results.
With hindsight my priorities were out of order I was volunteering for an environmental charity where I was focused on trying to make the world better. This was not making life better and I was a burden to those who loved me the most.
This made me realise there is no point trying to change the world when I can’t even change my own life.
The next day I quit working for the charity, vowing to sort myself out. Continue reading “Out of step (with the world)”
It took nearly seven months before I decided to publish on the Manifesto of Perfection again, the place I recorded my thoughts and opinions of all things self-improvement.
Last week I marked my return, where for the first time ever I featured work that wasn’t my own – a beautiful poem by Charles Bukowski ‘So you want to be a writer?’
I can’t promise it will change your life or anything, but it reminded me why I enjoy writing – expressing oneself, relieving stress, someone appreciates your work, the natural inspiration process, artistic integrity. I knew it was time to return.
Continue reading “Slight return”
Many of us setting goals severely underestimate the value of our potential and our ability to aim higher.
By the low expectations we have and the lack of self-belief in ourselves mean we are living a life of constant underachievement.
We seethe in the corner as people we perceive as ‘arrogant’ get all the breaks – all the power, all the wealth and all the success. We dwell on those people – and think “they haven’t paid their dues.” But the over confident have something in common, which we can learn from – the ability to aim higher.
It’s time to stop selling ourselves short.
Continue reading “Aim Higher”
Today I am pleased to announce that I have done my first post my first collaboration post with Angie over at Confessions of an Awakened Youth – a blog focused on blog focuses on self-improvement, mental and physical wellness, and spirituality.
For this collaboration, we challenged ourselves to write a post on a set topic – our focus was on “Getting over the fear of failure.”
Here is my effort below. Please let me know any thoughts and comments below and don’t forgot to check out Angie’s work afterwards (link at the bottom)
Continue reading “Life Experience: a natural cure to get over fear of failure”
I read a rather interesting post that took a bit of a self-deprecating tone about blogging.
Along with the feeling of insignificance that no one was reading their work, one of the authors concerns was that by blogging they were not contributing anything new.
From what I remember of the post they even said something like “I could just be another self-improvement blog passing on the same information.”
The reason it took me a year to start a blog was partly because I wanted to do something new and different. Continue reading “Originality”