Feel Disappointed After Achieving a Goal?: Try this…

For the past year, you’ve set yourself a habit working towards that goal to achieve that thing you really want. And after all that time working through the challenges and setbacks, you’ve finally done it! So why do you feel so down and disappointed with the end result? Why do I feel so down now … Continue reading Feel Disappointed After Achieving a Goal?: Try this…

The Humble Person’s Guide to Hype and Self-Promotion

When it comes to personal attributes, bragging is not a revered trait.  Several years ago I wrote the post How do you handle a bragger?, which has experienced continued traffic over the years, from people I can assume seeking coping strategies to deal with a boastful colleague, relative or friend.  In my own upbringing, I’ve … Continue reading The Humble Person’s Guide to Hype and Self-Promotion

Massive Goal Achieved – Why Am I Disappointed?

“The first day of your new life…” Sickness rages in my stomach. Today I start a new job, something done many times before – but this time it’s different. There was no night before ritual of laying out my suit, checking train times or packing my bag. Instead, I’m looking out the window waiting for … Continue reading Massive Goal Achieved – Why Am I Disappointed?

Don’t Take The Opportunity

“It had been a long week…” It had been a long week; the type that made you know you were ready for a holiday. I left the office early catching the 4 o’clock train, enjoying the commute by day dreaming out the window. As I departed the train my right pocket gave a slight pulsating … Continue reading Don’t Take The Opportunity

Does Money Buy Happiness?

Money doesn't buy happiness they say. But when it comes to basics like making rent, eating and having a warm home, money makes your life much easier. Don’t get me wrong, most of my life I’ve lived pretty comfortably. I can’t speak from experience of fiscal struggles being a daily reality throughout my life, but … Continue reading Does Money Buy Happiness?

Is it Worth Getting a Degree?

Something I wrote several years ago that still gets a lot of attention is the post My big fat worthless degree. It’s lasting popularity, I account to the fact that countless others have gone down this path, to feel cheated.  I imagine my words resonated with readers frustrated by their life choices. This is a … Continue reading Is it Worth Getting a Degree?

Fatima Gets a Job in Cyber Security: The Nation Loses its Mind!

In this week’s episode of things I wouldn’t care about if social media didn’t tell me to be outraged about … is the story of Fatima the Ballerina, who is being targeted by HM Government for a future role providing the last line of defence in the event of a cyber-attack. This has met some … Continue reading Fatima Gets a Job in Cyber Security: The Nation Loses its Mind!

7 Approaches to Develop a Bulletproof Mindset When Facing Adversity

We all have good weeks and bad weeks. When I worked in the Child Protection unit, I was overseen by an incompetent manager who absolutely despised me! As I was a people pleaser by nature, I took pride in putting the needs of others first – even at the expense of my own wellbeing. Despite … Continue reading 7 Approaches to Develop a Bulletproof Mindset When Facing Adversity

The Parenting Gap / The Parenting Trap

According to the latest research, from the Institute for Fiscal Studies, mums appear to have been doing most of the housework and childcare during lockdown.

With today’s post I wanted to discuss the main theme from this research – a sense of fairness balancing child care duties in a relationship against the day job.

Is it possible to manage it all?

Just let go

The original intention Perfect Manifesto was a way for me to track and be accountable for my goals – especially for the big, long term ones. My biggest vision was career progression, notably my aspiration to fight up the ranks and be a Project Manager in my company by March 2022. This was no mere … Continue reading Just let go

You are not your job

You are not your job My adult life self-worth has put way to much emphasis on: how much I get paid how important my job sounds how many people I'm 'in charge' of how often I 'advance' This drive has resulted in a loss of sight of the big picture - happiness, wellbeing and family. … Continue reading You are not your job

The interview: Tell me about yourself

One of my favourite interview questions is: "So... Tell me about yourself?" I like this question, not because it's particular good or useful but because it's so vague that without prior thought and preparation it's sure to go wrong. It's certainly the best question to hear funny anecdotes of bad responses. "Yes... well... my names … Continue reading The interview: Tell me about yourself