Have you seen my No Complaining Challenge yet?
Because many are calling 2020 a ‘bad’ year, this seemed like an ideal time to challenge my readers not to complain for the next three weeks.
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In today’s post I want to look at gratitude.
When times are hard, you may say:
“What is there to be grateful for?”
If you seriously want to be more positive and complain less, then practice gratitude on a regular basis.
Don’t over complicate it, simply take 5 – 10 ten minutes every day to reflect on what you are grateful for (feel free to write this down).
It’s also a good practice to express gratitude when you come across a scenario that doesn’t make you feel particularly grateful.
So what can you feel grateful for? Read on…
Reflect on the progress made over time
Where are you today?
What were you like in the past?
How have you got better?
What have you achieved during this time?
There is nothing that will make you feel more grateful than realising how much you’ve progressed over the years.
When you set goals, you are making progress, even when you have yet to achieve it.
For example I have goals to make some big gyms lifts on my squat, deadlift and bench. I’m not quite yet at the end goal yet, but I’m grateful for the improvements that have made me the strongest I’ve ever been.
Also try looking further – in my post How Far We Come, I reflect on the progress made from being 18, where I realised everything I wanted then, I have now achieved – which I am very grateful for!
When you look back in your past you’ll realise how much personal growth has taken place.
Be thankful for what you do have
My goal is to become a Project Manager in my company by 2022.
This hasn’t gone to plan, as my organisation announced they were no longer financially sustainable, had to undergo restructuring and make people redundant.
Instead of applying for a promotion as planned, I was applying for my own job!
Once that was done with, Coronavirus hit and all future recruitment was frozen.
I’m at a point where it’s unlikely I’ll reach this goal. When I realised this, it hurt.
But then I practiced gratitude for what I do have – in these difficult times I still have a well paid job, that allows me the flexibility to work on other things interests such as writing.
I also recognised there is more to my life than work, having a family that loves me very much.
Don’t dwell on what you don’t have, appreciate what you’ve got.
See the good from a bad situation
Complaining originates from focusing on the bad which may (or has) occured.
I invite you to flip how you think about things and be grateful for whatever happens to you.
In Viktor Franklins book a Man’s Search for Meaning, he discusses a client who was struggling to get over the death of his wife.
Franklin was able to help the man see a different perspective – by dying, his wife was spared the pain of having to go through what the man was experiencing.
By applying this approach, he had meaning to his suffering, and in many ways saw purpose in his suffering, and was even grateful he was the one going through this.
In my own life, my baby daughter is going through a difficult patch sleeping, my wife and I are both exhausted and losing patience, but I express gratitude that she is still healthy and that we were able to have children.
With every situation that has hardship, try to identify the good that comes for it.
Remember everything that is free
What is free we take for granted, in my post The Secret of My Endurance I discuss the end of my grandparent’s generation, something in reflection, I took for granted.
Being born into the world, they were just there, I didn’t have to earn them and until they started disappearing, didn’t appreciate their presence.
Don’t forget everything that is free as these are irreplaceable.
As the famous Personal Development thinker Earl Nightingale said:
“Everything that’s really worthwhile in life came to us free; our mind, our soul, our body, our hopes, our dreams, our ambitions, our intelligence, our love of family and children and friends. All these priceless possessions are free, but the things that cost us money are actually very cheap and can be replaced at any time.”
Earl Nightingale (via Goodreads)
Next time you feel down and want to complain, think about the good things.
What are you grateful for?
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This is part of a series of posts for the No Complaining Challenge 2020.
I challenge you to try not to complain for the next three weeks and see what happens.
Everytime you fail (and you will) make a note of what the trigger is and set a plan of action in place avoid falling into this trap.
When you do this you’re going to fail, fail, fail again. But when you do, at least you know not to complain about it…
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