Perfect father

If I have not said enough already, last year I became a father.

It took a while to really get back to focusing on my goals.  Time is tight and there is the obvious distraction (i.e. a baby) but so far its all good, I feel motivated than ever and finding ways to make it work.

When I was reviewing my progress my wife asked the usual “What are you writing about?” type question, so I gave the standard answer about recording recent progress against my goals.

“Okay… do you have any family goals?”

I sat in silence for a moment… then I simply said “No”

It wasn’t really a difficult question I just hadn’t put in any thought into being a better father.  When I really thought about it there was so many things I could do. Continue reading “Perfect father”

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Why do you want more money?

In my last post I discussed about keeping goals simple.  A major part of this is how important it is to apply a metric to any goals that you set so that there is room for measurement as you progress.

This got me thinking about a goal that is very easy to apply a metric to that I would say 99.9% of people in the self-improvement field possess.  Of  course, I’m talking about –

Money

Money goals come in many forms:

  • To get a job that earns ‘X’.
  • Be a millionaire.
  • Make ‘X’ amount a month in passive income.
  • I want to be rich.
  • I want to be debt free.
  • Increase my business profit.

Some of these read better than others, applying a metric is better than a vague aspirational statement saying –  “I want to be a millionaire” is worthless, as it is nothing but a dream without any clear plans in place or a clear why you want to achieve that goal. Continue reading “Why do you want more money?”

How to keep your goals simple

The Internet really over complicates goal setting.

If it is not recommending the ‘best’ app to record your goals, it offers a platitude of content at the users’ disposal.  Many a cunning person has exploited this, as if by applying a monetary value their advice is seen more impactful, when it is just another piece of the same old regurgitated advice from across the globe.

Here is how it should be:

  1. Choose how you want to record your goals.
  2. Come up with what you want to achieve.
  3. Make a plan for it and put this into practice.
  4. (After much effort and habit) get a result.

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Enjoy the journey

Upon undertaking the journey of self-improvement an individual typically finds they go through three stages of emotions in the quest to live a more fulfilling life.

Elation

When a decision to self-improve is made, one commits to deliberate effort addressing what they want in life; typically this comes in the form of setting goals and undertaking research to inform and inspire such as books, recordings etc.

This is a discovery stage, where everything is new and many of the ideas is all new information.  The improver will have feelings of elation as they embrace the words of great minds, gaining knowledge that is ‘life-changing’.

Because of its newness goals are achieved a lot quicker usually because niggling issues, ignored for years are addressed. Tangible improvements are seen to health, wealth and social life.

You think to how you were in the past and why you didn’t take control of your life years ago.  But there is a naivety as the results are only ‘quick wins’, with many bigger challenges ahead, which leads to…  Continue reading “Enjoy the journey”

Out of step (with the world)

Several years ago my life was a mess, despite ambition and a strong work ethic, I saw little to no results.

With hindsight my priorities were out of order I was volunteering for an environmental charity where I was focused on trying to make the world better.  This was not making life better and I was a burden to those who loved me the most.

This made me realise there is no point trying to change the world when I can’t even change my own life.

The next day I quit working for the charity, vowing to sort myself out. Continue reading “Out of step (with the world)”

Aim Higher

Many of us setting goals severely underestimate the value of our potential and our ability to aim higher.
By the low expectations we have and the lack of self-belief in ourselves mean we are living a life of constant underachievement.
We seethe in the corner as people we perceive as ‘arrogant’ get all the breaks – all the power, all the wealth and all the success.  We dwell on those people – and think “they haven’t paid their dues.” But the over confident have something in common, which we can learn from – the ability to aim higher.
It’s time to stop selling ourselves short.

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Fight Club: Raymond K Hessel – a near life experience

Fight Club, an entertaining book and film has many teachings for life – not just on masculinity but also on self-improvement, motivation and making the most out of your potential.

One of the most compelling scenes is when Tyler Durden or the Narrator (depending on whether you are consuming the film or book version), puts a gun to convenience store worker Raymond K Hessel’s head and threatens to pull the trigger unless they go back on track to realising their potential.

The stories protagonists enact a very extreme way of encouraging someone to pull themselves together and stop wasting their potential.  A near-life experience.

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Do affirmations work?

One habit that I have followed religiously since I read Scott Adams book  “How to fail at almost everything and still win big” to encourage me to think positively and focus on what I want is affirmations.

What is an affirmation?

An affirmation is basically something that you say to yourself in order to help encourage a positive outcome.  So for example in Scott Adams book he would say to himself

“I Scott Adams will one day I will be a successful cartoonist”.

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How to do more of the must do tasks that you don’t want to do each day

One of the problems with setting goals is that you get really focused on getting the goals done and letting the ‘housekeeping’ part of your life slip.

I can easily write a 1000 words a day without even trying. I can get up at 6am to go to the gym and yet if one of the bulbs go in my hallway light I can procrastinate and ignore the problem, even though it is a simple task because I have no desire to do it!

These tedious tasks help make up your day-to-day life and are just as important as the goals you want to do because if you can’t even keep your own house in order how do you expect to achieve anything? Continue reading “How to do more of the must do tasks that you don’t want to do each day”

Why bucket lists are bad and why you should shun them

Let’s say I asked you to put together a bucket list – a list of things that you want to do before you die.

Before reading on just take a minute to think about what those things would be.

Done it? Okay I will continue…

Without even knowing you I bet it included something of the following:

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