Several years ago my life was a mess, despite ambition and a strong work ethic, I saw little to no results.
With hindsight my priorities were out of order I was volunteering for an environmental charity where I was focused on trying to make the world better. This was not making life better and I was a burden to those who loved me the most.
This made me realise there is no point trying to change the world when I can’t even change my own life.
The next day I quit working for the charity, vowing to sort myself out. Continue reading “Out of step (with the world)”
Many of us setting goals severely underestimate the value of our potential and our ability to aim higher.
By the low expectations we have and the lack of self-belief in ourselves mean we are living a life of constant underachievement.
We seethe in the corner as people we perceive as ‘arrogant’ get all the breaks – all the power, all the wealth and all the success. We dwell on those people – and think “they haven’t paid their dues.” But the over confident have something in common, which we can learn from – the ability to aim higher.
It’s time to stop selling ourselves short.
Continue reading “Aim Higher”
Fight Club, an entertaining book and film has many teachings for life – not just on masculinity but also on self-improvement, motivation and making the most out of your potential.
One of the most compelling scenes is when Tyler Durden or the Narrator (depending on whether you are consuming the film or book version), puts a gun to convenience store worker Raymond K Hessel’s head and threatens to pull the trigger unless they go back on track to realising their potential.
The stories protagonists enact a very extreme way of encouraging someone to pull themselves together and stop wasting their potential. A near-life experience.
Continue reading “Fight Club: Raymond K Hessel – a near life experience”
One habit that I have followed religiously since I read Scott Adams book “How to fail at almost everything and still win big” to encourage me to think positively and focus on what I want is affirmations.
What is an affirmation?
An affirmation is basically something that you say to yourself in order to help encourage a positive outcome. So for example in Scott Adams book he would say to himself
“I Scott Adams will one day I will be a successful cartoonist”.
One of the problems with setting goals is that you get really focused on getting the goals done and letting the ‘housekeeping’ part of your life slip.
I can easily write a 1000 words a day without even trying. I can get up at 6am to go to the gym and yet if one of the bulbs go in my hallway light I can procrastinate and ignore the problem, even though it is a simple task because I have no desire to do it!
These tedious tasks help make up your day-to-day life and are just as important as the goals you want to do because if you can’t even keep your own house in order how do you expect to achieve anything? Continue reading “How to do more of the must do tasks that you don’t want to do each day”
Let’s say I asked you to put together a bucket list – a list of things that you want to do before you die.
Before reading on just take a minute to think about what those things would be.
Done it? Okay I will continue…
Without even knowing you I bet it included something of the following:
Continue reading “Why bucket lists are bad and why you should shun them”
This post was originally posted on April 2014
Additional note: It’s interesting to go back through my old posts to see how my writing has changed, reading it can be a bit embarrassing but I guess it shows I have changed and evolved…
Life is short, some people choose to waste their free time doing much of nothing, others spend free time on interesting hobbies, improving themselves and developing skills that they can use later in life.
Here are the five habits you should be doing:
Continue reading “Habits you should adopt”
Self-limiting beliefs are the biggest hindrance to our true potential.
When you have goals, or you just want to get something done, the first battle often is fighting against these beliefs, which can sometimes use a lot of the motivation that would actually be better used to get the task done.
Continue reading “Be your crowd”
Some of my success has been limited by my lack of ability to aim higher.
The problem with setting goals that are clearly quantified is that you can quite easily set a target that is too small or not challenging enough.
One things that sticks in my mind was at an interview where I was pushed on how much I felt I should get paid. I gave a pathetically low amount.
My fear was that if I said too much I would have put them off straight away – my logic was that I was offering them a bargain – they interpreted it that I didn’t value my time.
The lesson there was that I should have aimed higher – even if I did give an amount that was too high, I could have negotiated and still got a wage that would have worked out well for both parties – myself getting paid more and the company thinking they got a true bargain as they had negotiated my wage down!
Continue reading “Aim higher”
The most common about approach to setting successful goals are usually the best and I am sure that you have heard of SMART objectives.
But I don’t like to assume – if you have been hiding under a rock, here is what they mean:
Continue reading “Use SMART objectives to achieve your goals”