The sense of it all

My dad joked when my daughter was born “Facebook has replaced the newspaper for announcements”

It was a statement I couldn’t help think and laugh about (perhaps inappropriately) when I read about the premature death of a former work colleague.

The Internet is supposed to bring us closer together, I can read hundreds of unsolicited opinions on the President across the pond paying off a hooker; yet it took over a year for someone who I knew, someone who lived about 20 miles away was no longer of this Earth.

A part of me can’t believe that not one person said to me “James were you aware…”

I only realised after another ex-colleagues, made a one-year anniversary reflection post.  I had been living my life to miss the news first time around and I thought what I was doing to miss this; I think I was worrying about some problem at work… insignificant in the scheme of life.

I couldn’t help see the bitter irony that as one family mourned the end of a life, my wife and myself were overjoyed and preparing for the baby scheduled to come into our life.

As a reflex I texted a dozen friends and family members sending my love and asking how they were doing.  It’s funny how death sucker punches you in the face making you appreciate who you do have.

The disappointing thing about not knowing was it came off like I did not cared, I cared… Continue reading “The sense of it all”

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How to answer the interview question – What is your weakness?

A common question asked at interviews is

“What is your strength and what is your weakness?”

I have heard a number of methods for answering this question and thought I would focus onthe second part of this question as usually people are quite good about talking about a particular area that they excel in.

The whole purpose on an interview is to sell yourself and show that you are the right candidate for the job.  But this is what makes this question interesting because it is deliberately asking the candidate to say something negative about themselves.  Here I talk through some potential answers to this question.interview-weakness Continue reading “How to answer the interview question – What is your weakness?”

Office Etiquette – It’s ok to…

Saw this kicking about.

Thought it was nice reassurance for working in an office to show that doing these things are ok…

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Fearing the future

Ricky the temp is being his usual sassy self.  I am in an adult job now, but his bitchy manner to me feels like bullying.  All because I don’t want to divulge my sex life at work.

For some reason he uses this as an opportunity to have a dig at me at every opportunity.  Normally a temp would get canned quickly if they got a bit too big for their boots.  But Rick the prick was clever and charmed the management so he was the golden boy who could do no wrong.

But he was low on my list of problems – I had been stuck doing this job for the last four years.  I felt I was destined destined for more, but whenever I tried to better myself I just got put back down.  I had been snubbed for promotion twice in the last three months and had begun to question my future in the job. Continue reading “Fearing the future”

How I make the most of time

It was a regular Wednesday morning – where I always get the train to work.  The only difference was that my alarm did not go off.

With 20 minutes to get ready it was a difficult task to get the train – usually it takes me at least 20 minutes alone to get ready!

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Almost defeated I was ready to roll over and go back to bed.  Then something in my head said Come on if you are quick you can do this!”

I jumped out of bed, cleaned myself up, threw all my things in my bag, grabbed some breakfast and drove down to the station.  When I arrived I expected to be making a mad dash for the train.  I checked my watch – I had 2 minutes to spare.

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I used to be angry

I used to be angry

But then I thought “What do I have to be angry about?”

I live in one of the most privileged countries in the world.

My home is safe from natural disaster and hostile people.

I have an education that was free till I was 18, then I had the choice to go learn more or get a job – of which there are plenty. Continue reading “I used to be angry”

….And influence people

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I find this a useful infographic to remind on all the main lessons in the book How to Win Friends and Influence people. Continue reading “….And influence people”

Work place Trends 2016

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2015 – My adult year

And so another year ends…

To sum it up it has been a busy one.  I thought I would sum it up through my health, creative, wealth and social life.

Health

This has been a particular let down.  I don’t feel like my fitness has really returned to form – I have not had as much time to dedicate to keeping fit and when I do I have found it a real struggle.

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The Tower

It took me ages to find the venue for my interview.

I made the mistake of walking to the venue on a hot summers day in my finest suit.  When I arrived I was hot and sweaty.  I made a focused effort to keep my arms down so that they would not see the sweat that had soaked through my shirt from my arm pits. Continue reading “The Tower”