Upon undertaking the journey of self-improvement an individual typically finds they go through three stages of emotions in the quest to live a more fulfilling life.
When a decision to self-improve is made, one commits to deliberate effort addressing what they want in life; typically this comes in the form of setting goals and undertaking research to inform and inspire such as books, recordings etc.
This is a discovery stage, where everything is new and many of the ideas is all new information. The improver will have feelings of elation as they embrace the words of great minds, gaining knowledge that is ‘life-changing’.
Because of its newness goals are achieved a lot quicker usually because niggling issues, ignored for years are addressed. Tangible improvements are seen to health, wealth and social life.
You think to how you were in the past and why you didn’t take control of your life years ago. But there is a naivety as the results are only ‘quick wins’, with many bigger challenges ahead, which leads to… Continue reading “Enjoy the journey”
Following in the footsteps of someone who is exceptionally talented can be a daunting and intimidating prospect.
Whether it is with work where you take on the job of someone who is described as “invaluable” “a massive loss when they left” or “did so much for us” to having family or friends who are massive successes in your own right.
This can all put a bit of pressure on you where you will just feel inadequate and maybe even think “it’s not even worth trying – I will never be as good at them!”
The temptation is to quit or just be average at best and not care what other people say. But mediocrity is not the best approach to life. There are other ways of making your own mark – even against someone who sounds like the second coming of Jesus Christ himself! Continue reading “How to make an impact when you follow in a successful person’s footsteps”
In the western world we live in a very privileged society. We have safety, comfort and the freedom of leisure in ways that our ancestors never experienced.
So, what I am wondering is…
How did we all become such miserable bastards?
Continue reading “How did we all become such miserable bastards?”
I used to be angry
But then I thought “What do I have to be angry about?”
I live in one of the most privileged countries in the world.
My home is safe from natural disaster and hostile people.
I have an education that was free till I was 18, then I had the choice to go learn more or get a job – of which there are plenty. Continue reading “I used to be angry”
It was exactly 10 months ago today that I started the job that, for the first time gave me hope I had a career.
Although my job was relatively small and I got stuck with a lot of the crap jobs, I was eager to prove myself to get ahead in a project management office. Continue reading “All the small things”
“You’re a person who loses their temper easily…”
When a boss said that to me, I thought that was not like me at all. I am pretty well laid back and from that statement I realised they did not know me at all.
Ironically I left the room in an angry state, then again they knew how to push my buttons.
Things continued throughout the rest of the year and occasionally I got angry. It became clear that I had a problem with my emotions when I lost it during a meeting with the horrible boss. I was just frustrated, I was not being listen to and I felt my skills were under utilised. I was between punching them or crying – both would not result in great outcomes so I stormed out of the room. Continue reading “My angry year”