You are your friends

This post was originally posted in March 2015 and has been reposted to illustrate some of the work I am writing on Medium.com.

“Birds of a feather flock together”

Friends are the biggest influence in our lives, even more than family.

If you don’t believe me, look at many school reports for badly behaved children.  They will be full of things like:

He is a good person, he’s just in the wrong crowd.,,,,

She has potential but her choice of friendship groups is questionable….

Tom is a negative influence on him…

And it is important to realise this if you want to make your life better – because essentially, you are, who your friends are.

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How I make the most of time

It was a regular Wednesday morning – where I always get the train to work.  The only difference was that my alarm did not go off.

With 20 minutes to get ready it was a difficult task to get the train – usually it takes me at least 20 minutes alone to get ready!

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Almost defeated I was ready to roll over and go back to bed.  Then something in my head said Come on if you are quick you can do this!”

I jumped out of bed, cleaned myself up, threw all my things in my bag, grabbed some breakfast and drove down to the station.  When I arrived I expected to be making a mad dash for the train.  I checked my watch – I had 2 minutes to spare.

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The Worst mistake you can make in life…

I was talking with my future wife about our wedding.

“It will be here before we know it…” she said

She was right, it was nearly the end of May.  When we started making those plans it seemed like such a long wait.

And that got me thinking – I am 33 years old, how quick did those years go by? Continue reading “The Worst mistake you can make in life…”

A man of many talents

This year I made a cake for my birthday.

Being aware of many of the activities I do (many of which I highlight in this blog).

Someone remarked “You’re a man of many talents”

I guess I am.  But the reason I am is because I make the effort to apply myself and try. Continue reading “A man of many talents”

The Assertive Rules List

To meet my need to be more assertive, I decided to develop a list of rules that I will follow to ensure that I am not being a pushover.

These are quite personal to me and is a guideline on how to put being assertive into practice.

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Make time for your loved ones

So much to do in a day, yet so little time to work on my goals.

If I have been out with Vicky, talked to my mum, gone walking with my dad or helped out my brother, I can forgive myself for shirking on my goals.

lovedones

“Always make time for your loved ones.  They are your life and the reason you strive to be more…..”


GOALSETTING

Manifesto of Perfection – Goal Setting Month

Friends and Self-Improvement

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“Birds of a feather flock together”

Friends are the biggest influence in our lives, even more than family.

If you don’t believe me, look at many school reports for badly behaved children.  They will be full of things like:

He is a good person, he’s just in the wrong crowd.,,,,

She has potential but her choice of friendship groups is questionable….

Tom is a negative influence on him…

And it is important to realise this if you want to make your life better – because essentially, you are, who your friends are.

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The clock

The Clock – Dave Allen

“We spend our lives on the run: we get up by the clock, eat and sleep by the clock, get up again, go to work – and then we retire. And what do they give us? A clock.”

Dave Allen was an innovative comedian in the UK comedy scene during the 70’s.  When other stand-ups were still doing mother-in-law jokes, Dave produced so much thought provoking material and was not afraid to offend. Continue reading “The clock”

Time for a change

Time for a change: It dawned on me the other day.  In 8 and a half years I will 40.

If I have learnt anything  in my life, what seems so far away, creeps upon a person in no time.

It happened in my teens and sometimes I reflect where that precious time went.

Going back to the year 2000

It was a Millennium New Year’s eve.  I was 17 and allowed to drink some champagne.  Apart from wondering whether Y2K was going to end us all, like others, my mind was full of thoughts on what the future held in store.  Knowing my teenage mind it probably related to the three M’s:

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The cruel conflict of freedom

Freedom is cruel, for every choice we make to be free the decision makes us less free in other aspects of our life.

The man who does not work has the freedom of time, , to see family, or to calmly observe his world.

But he loses the freedom of capital, unlike the man who can offer security, engage in leisure activities and see the rest of the world.

Freedom

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