At the moment the only function I can really see is to increase my connections, of people I once networked with in a professional setting. Essentially has become some sort of organisation Pokedex where I have to catch them all – or rather got to network with them all. This usually results in a mundane loop from the newsfeed where I get to see what my network “liked”.
Ricky the temp is being his usual sassy self. I am in an adult job now, but his bitchy manner to me feels like bullying. All because I don’t want to divulge my sex life at work.
For some reason he uses this as an opportunity to have a dig at me at every opportunity. Normally a temp would get canned quickly if they got a bit too big for their boots. But Rick the prick was clever and charmed the management so he was the golden boy who could do no wrong.
But he was low on my list of problems – I had been stuck doing this job for the last four years. I felt I was destined destined for more, but whenever I tried to better myself I just got put back down. I had been snubbed for promotion twice in the last three months and had begun to question my future in the job. Continue reading →
A little known fact about me. I once featured in the Guardian website as part of a panel of experts for a Q & A discussing the benefits of postgraduate degrees to improve careers. This fact is so little known that I only remembered I did this the other day.
I had been told I had been ready for the next level for the last three months.
The only problem was where I worked has recently had a freeze on recruitment, so I didn’t have any opportunities to move up.
So I grew restless and impatient and decided to look for work elsewhere.
It never felt quite right as I filled in the application – I struggled through it even though it didn’t feel right. To try and make me feel better I asked those close to me their thoughts. Continue reading →
It was a regular Wednesday morning – where I always get the train to work. The only difference was that my alarm did not go off.
With 20 minutes to get ready it was a difficult task to get the train – usually it takes me at least 20 minutes alone to get ready!
Almost defeated I was ready to roll over and go back to bed. Then something in my head said “Come on if you are quick you can do this!”
I jumped out of bed, cleaned myself up, threw all my things in my bag, grabbed some breakfast and drove down to the station. When I arrived I expected to be making a mad dash for the train. I checked my watch – I had 2 minutes to spare.
If there is one type of attribute I despise in a person it is a lack of humility.
But it is inevitable in life that we will encounter braggers on a regular basis.
The best approach – absolutely nothing.
I came to this conclusion, because the reason a person may brag is that they are insecure and seeking validation. By not reacting you starve them of this. But there is temptation to take another approach. Here, I explain why you shouldn’t:
Many years ago I bought a guitar. This decision was motivated about dreaming of playing in a band.
I never wanted to be the lead singer, but be the cool, sullen guitarist, who stood in the background, but was the real talent that carried the band. Being the hardworking, introvert really appealed to me.
And that is because people despise people who talk about what they want to do or what they have done in the past. That is no good for other people – it may be a combination of envy or just that it is blantant bragging but talking doesn’t produce the results, action do.
So don’t tell them what you can do – show them!
But how do we show off to people what we can do without coming across as a child wanting validation?