If I have not said enough already, last year I became a father.
It took a while to really get back to focusing on my goals. Time is tight and there is the obvious distraction (i.e. a baby) but so far its all good, I feel motivated than ever and finding ways to make it work.
When I was reviewing my progress my wife asked the usual “What are you writing about?” type question, so I gave the standard answer about recording recent progress against my goals.
“Okay… do you have any family goals?”
I sat in silence for a moment… then I simply said “No”
It wasn’t really a difficult question I just hadn’t put in any thought into being a better father. When I really thought about it there was so many things I could do.
When setting ‘fatherhood goals’ I thought it from my perspective as I couldn’t expect to set goals for others to do and I certainly wasn’t about to become a pushy parent for an eight month old.
It had to be me – how could I be a better father for my daughter and a better husband for my wife. This is what I have called the second stage of my ‘step theory’ to improve my families standing.
After much thinking I set myself the following as a starter:
- Ensure I read to her everyday.
- Make time to feed her on work days.
- Always put her to bed.
I also have some other goals which relate with my wife – becoming a mother has made me see her in a new way, as she has with me being a father – its been very easy to forget how we were before the baby and I don’t want to neglect that.
What are you thoughts on my goals? Do you have any family goals? Please feel free to share in the comments.
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