You are not your job

You are not your job My adult life self-worth has put way to much emphasis on: how much I get paid how important my job sounds how many people I'm 'in charge' of how often I 'advance' This drive has resulted in a loss of sight of the big picture - happiness, wellbeing and family. … Continue reading You are not your job

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Gents, let’s talk about being a father to a young girl…

Gents, let’s talk about being a father to a young girl... On the lead up to the birth of my daughter, I was  asked: “You’re having a daughter?  Are you disappointed?” It was strange some assumed because of her gender this would impact how much I loved my yet to be born child. Perhaps it … Continue reading Gents, let’s talk about being a father to a young girl…

Reflections from my grandfather’s deathbed

The phone buzzed away - my dad ringing, it was out of character for him to call at this time, he would know I was just home from work having dinner. It had to be bad. Grandad’s health had declined overnight and was now he was in a vegetative sleeping state - he might have … Continue reading Reflections from my grandfather’s deathbed

Handling pressure: Lessons from the SAS

In two situations that are relatively the same, why do two different people react in different ways? One responds having a meltdown and being unable to function.The other is unmoved by the situation and responds in a calm manner, handling the problem. The answer lies in the individual's ability to handle pressure - an invaluable … Continue reading Handling pressure: Lessons from the SAS

The fatherhood / ambition balance

The fatherhood / ambition balance Becoming a dad for the first time is a massive change to our lives.  How do you got about balancing fatherhood with ambition?   It can be difficult to focus on wider goals with this new person in our lives.   In this post, I share my experiences being a … Continue reading The fatherhood / ambition balance

Avoid these MISTAKES to get a dad bod

Avoid these MISTAKES to get a dad bod The self-improvement movement encourages men to better themselves - this is all wrong as we will never be happy because we will never reach our full potential. This includes the negative expectation to stay physically healthy and go to the gym.  This is not good as it … Continue reading Avoid these MISTAKES to get a dad bod

Perfect father

If I have not said enough already, last year I became a father. It took a while to really get back to focusing on my goals.  Time is tight and there is the obvious distraction (i.e. a baby) but so far its all good, I feel motivated than ever and finding ways to make it … Continue reading Perfect father

The fit father

Prior to the birth of my little girl, I spoke to a work colleague how I would fit my gym routine around my soon to be changing life. "Oh you won't have time for all that anymore," they said in an almost self-satisfied manner. The gym has been part of my life for over 15 … Continue reading The fit father

Slight return

It took nearly seven months before I decided to publish on the Manifesto of Perfection again, the place I recorded my thoughts and opinions of all things self-improvement. Last week I marked my return, where for the first time ever I featured work that wasn't my own - a beautiful poem by Charles Bukowski 'So you want … Continue reading Slight return