Recently I’ve been thinking of what makes a confident person?
Previous preconceptions made me view someone with inner self-confidence as someone who is comfortable voicing their opinions. They have a tone of contempt and arrogance, being unwilling to back down on their beliefs. Typically in a group they tend to dominate and make themselves stand-out.
But my understanding isn’t technically correct as often the loudest person in the room is doing so as a front, trying to compensate for their own lack of self-esteem.
When I began researching what makes a highly confident person, I began to find the same types of attributes being listed again and again.
Below I’ve put together the following list to define The 42 Habits of A Highly Confident Person
What habits does a highly confident person possesses?
- don’t need motivation from external sources to get things done.
- find happiness from within.
- are assertive communicators.
- don’t take themselves too seriously.
- don’t judge others.
- don’t belittle others to build themselves up.
- practice self-compassion
- are resilient.
- recover from failure quicker.
- don’t fear failure.
- don’t do things for the validation and approval of others.
- can carry out their duties without needing constant direction.
- doesn’t crave attention.
- realise importance of prioritising their needs first.
- recognise their strengths and limitations.
- aren’t afraid to ask for help.
- are persistent.
- celebrate the achievements of others.
- know how to promote their successes appropriately.
- don’t view the success of others as a threat to their own achievements.
- are ambitious.
- know how to push their potential.
- have a clear vision.
- have goals and/or a system for regular achievement.
- take opportunities
- recognise what they can control.
- are able to learn from and let go of the past.
- own mistakes, take personal responsibility.
- respect differing opinions of others.
- stand up for what they believe in.
- stand up for others who are vulnerable.
- choose their battles wisely
- recognise when they have done a good job.
- take any positive feedback with grace.
- take any negative feedback with humility and learning.
- can prioritise.
- will only say ‘yes’ to something if they can commit and/or really want to.
- look after their body and mind.
- have good posture.
- make eye contact and good body language.
- will admit when they are wrong.
- aren’t afraid to change their mind.
This isn’t a definitive list, I’m sure there are attributes I’ve overlooked, and some you may argue aren’t necessarily unique for someone with high confidence. Therefore I would love to know your thoughts…
- Do any of these attributes stand-out to you?
- Do you know someone who displays a good number of the habits? Or can you think of someone famous like this?
- Is there anything I have missed?
- Or anything that you disagree with?
Stayed tuned, I’m looking at writing a post on every single one of these attributes…
Thanks for stopping by.
Wishing you great success
James @Perfect Manifesto