Some of my success has been limited by my lack of ability to aim higher.
The problem with setting goals that are clearly quantified is that you can quite easily set a target that is too small or not challenging enough.
One things that sticks in my mind was at an interview where I was pushed on how much I felt I should get paid. I gave a pathetically low amount.
My fear was that if I said too much I would have put them off straight away – my logic was that I was offering them a bargain – they interpreted it that I didn’t value my time.
The lesson there was that I should have aimed higher – even if I did give an amount that was too high, I could have negotiated and still got a wage that would have worked out well for both parties – myself getting paid more and the company thinking they got a true bargain as they had negotiated my wage down!
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Fēijī – it means Airplane in Mandarin Chinese.
When I was at University we had the option to do an additional language course on top of the regular degree. As it was evening study the courses weren’t too popular as most students were too busy getting drunk. But studying Business it seemed logical to learn Mandarin. Continue reading “Fēijī”
Trying to Passing my driving test, exposed me to some of the worst advice I ever received.
“You’ve failed your test, just book straight back onto it…”
this didn’t consider that I should reflect where I went wrong or find a better teacher – this resulted in a waste of time and money.
A Pattern of Failure…
The first time I took my driving test, it was a disaster. I had got myself all worked about passing my test that I was shaking before I even started. Continue reading “Learning how to drive”
I realised the other day that I have been going to the gym for over 15 years.
It all started when my dad started encouraging me to join the gym he was going to. I was a shy, quiet, overweight Eighteen year old. I knew if I didn’t take action I was going to get fatter.
So I joined that day. I never knew doing that would change my life forever.
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Look at the picture below – what do you see?
A rather empty looking room? Continue reading “Small Challenges – big achievement”
As I write this to mark my 200th post it seems fitting that as I sat in my new home the other day, the ‘missus’ quiet casually brings my blog into conversation.
For those who are not aware – this blog is not something that the people in my real life are aware of. Its a bit like I am Clark Kent and this blog is Superman.
Continue reading “200 posts later… My secret is out…”
As I start off goal setting month, the best place to start is from the beginning, as I show how I set goals. If you have never done this before get a sheet of paper and write down what you want to achieve.
Continue reading “How to set goals”
It’s my first real effort at getting rid of some of my stuff and compared to previously I have decided to be more pragmatic in how I choose to clear my possessions out.
I may need this one day…
“How many notepads does a blog writer need?” I think, as I clear out a draw full of items related to writing. This is not to be mistaken with the draw next to it, which is full of sketchpads and drawing materials. It’s depressing as I realise my writings are like a mausoleum full of unfinished ideas and broken dreams.
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Oneitis is a term used in the maculinty blogs to refer to when a man becomes obsessed with one woman. So much that she is seen as the ‘one’ – a special little snow flake, whoses faults are overlooked and spends all his time, energy, effort and money to become their significant other.
Oneitis is a sad story which many men have gone through in there lives. It is negative as when this attitude is prevalent he ignores the potential of other partners – despite the fact his ‘one is not interested. Continue reading “Do you have oneitis with your goals”