The sense of it all

My dad joked when my daughter was born “Facebook has replaced the newspaper for announcements”

It was a statement I couldn’t help think and laugh about (perhaps inappropriately) when I read about the premature death of a former work colleague.

The Internet is supposed to bring us closer together, I can read hundreds of unsolicited opinions on the President across the pond paying off a hooker; yet it took over a year for someone who I knew, someone who lived about 20 miles away was no longer of this Earth.

A part of me can’t believe that not one person said to me “James were you aware…”

I only realised after another ex-colleagues, made a one-year anniversary reflection post.  I had been living my life to miss the news first time around and I thought what I was doing to miss this; I think I was worrying about some problem at work… insignificant in the scheme of life.

I couldn’t help see the bitter irony that as one family mourned the end of a life, my wife and myself were overjoyed and preparing for the baby scheduled to come into our life.

As a reflex I texted a dozen friends and family members sending my love and asking how they were doing.  It’s funny how death sucker punches you in the face making you appreciate who you do have.

The disappointing thing about not knowing was it came off like I did not cared, I cared… Continue reading “The sense of it all”

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Writing your life story

I have started writing my life story.

Just by writing that statement it feels strange and narcissistic.  To write your life story you have to be a celebrity or achieve something right?

But I have been motivated to do this indirectly by family. Continue reading “Writing your life story”

Why bucket lists are bad and why you should shun them

Let’s say I asked you to put together a bucket list – a list of things that you want to do before you die.

Before reading on just take a minute to think about what those things would be.

Done it? Okay I will continue…

Without even knowing you I bet it included something of the following:

Continue reading “Why bucket lists are bad and why you should shun them”

My Worst Year

At some point in my early adult life things were stagnant.  I went to work everyday, lived with my parents at home and every once in a while I would go out with friends – usually for a trip to the cinema.

There was no relationship, no ambition, nothing except a savings account that got bigger because I never did much but work.

And then the cat I had since childhood, Tigger died. Continue reading “My Worst Year”

The Face in the Mirror

The Face in the Mirror: When I first started working I wanted to do something in the evening.  So I went to a creative writing classes.  I was the only male in attendance, surrounded by women who were 40+

It was basically a forum for people to present ideas on the books that they would never get round to writing.

Then Dave joined up.  A guy approaching his 40’s, fat, unshaven, no style and little confidence.  I was still just a kid but even I could make eye contact with post menopause women.

The only interest I remember him having was that he liked Doctor Who and wrote fan fiction about it. Continue reading “The Face in the Mirror”

Panic attack! …. Death? It’s Funny? ha! ha!

So what next?

This week was the first time I missed my weekly deadline since starting Manifesto of Perfection.

I am kind of pissed off about it, as the blog always represented my desire to do something constructive and keep accountability of my self-development.  If I get in the habit of missing weekly writings how can I be accountable?

Illness got in the way of routine and that felt like an excuse.  I made time to see the final 10 hours of Breaking Bad.  I had a sore throat, this did not impede my ability to write. Continue reading “Panic attack! …. Death? It’s Funny? ha! ha!”

Review: Bachelor Pad Economics

Bachelor Pad Economics by Aaron Clarey

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As I started reading Bachelor pad economics, my first impression that this was going to be a blunt, no-nonsense approach about all things financial for men.

And I do mean all things – this covers a life cycle starting with the young man considering college/university to planning for death.

I fear if you are an idealist you may not appreciate the nature of this book, I probably would not agree with the author on everything but I found myself nodding in agreement with a lot of things said. Continue reading “Review: Bachelor Pad Economics”