This year has been a difficult one, I’m sure you’ve heard that a thousand times before, but I’m a believer difficult times offer the opportunity to learn a lot.
Lockdown took away the freedom to keep doing the things we loved, and, seeing the people we loved. Our places that relieved our stresses of the madness of the outside world and helped us achieve our goals were no longer an option and we had to adapt so we could survive and thrive.
These setbacks are a part of life, wherever you are, they will always appear just when you think you’re getting somewhere. Yes, you don’t get to go on holiday to Ibiza this year, but remember, it’s not about what you are doing, but who you’re spending that time with.
You can say to yourself “it’s not fair!” because you just wanted a peaceful life, but if there is anything I’ve realise over the past year, simplicity in achieving our dreams isn’t possible because they’ll always be battles from others pulling in opposite direction, therefore, conflict is guaranteed.
To set a goal is a revolutionary step to changing your life for the better, but it also comes with the risk that’ll you constantly want more. The funny thing is, you need to take the time out, otherwise you’ll not appreciate how far you’ve come.
Netflix, Instagram and reality TV is now available to our impressionable minds 24 hours a day, and we are constantly exposed to dangerous levels of influencers, with aspirational lifestyles, where there is always someone having better. Better looking, better careers, better sex, best travel and more money than God. The reality however is we are only get the opaque view, seeing what they want us to see, if only we could see clearly, we’d realise these people are never as exciting as they seem.
Social media manipulates emotions, being told what to do and what to believe. We become angry over the pettiest, most trivial shit on the Twitter machine, over things we won’t even remember in a year, but that doesn’t stop us banging away on keyboards, to ‘win’ arguments with people we’ll never meet.
So consumed by our digital overloads, we forget to take a long look at our life – our real life.
When was the last time you contacted an old friend, just to see they are doing okay?
Have you told the one you vowed to spend the rest of your life with how much you love them recently? Or have they just become just a flat mate?
Are you so consumed by the validation box, that you miss moments of pure joy from your children? Believe it or not you can learn more about living a fulfilling life from a little one more than some self-improvement guru ever could.
And what about those aging parents you take for granted? Time is cruel and one day they’ll no longer be at the end of the phone to talk to. I could show people who know this too real, who’d give anything just for one more day.
I’ve made mistakes, way too many to count, but they happened because I was willing to make decisions and take risks, I’ve had people revel in my failure and say ‘told you so’, but the jokes on them, because a life of inertia is worse than failure.
When making life choices, you’ll have an endless battle between head and heart, neither is wrong, but they take you on totally different paths. Don’t worry about making an error when you pursue new opportunities, as when one possibility closes in defeat, a dozen more options spring in it’s place.
Commit to the next road and see where life takes you next.
It’s easy to say you are fed up, and just sit in the corner and feel sorry for yourself, you’re not the only one going through hard times, but you are the only one who can get you out of your problems. It’s worth remembering how you act influences those around you, so don’t let them see that when things go wrong you play the victim and do nothing
Finally, remember one day will be your last, and it will be irrelevant how much money was in your bank, the size of your house or how much time you spent on your precious career. How you will be remembered, is how you carried yourself and the time you gave your loved ones.
So, give a little smile and help someone, as that my friend will be the legacy you leave for generations to come.
Take care of yourself and see you next time.
James @Perfect Manifesto