Hi folks, I wanted to follow-up on my post Lessons in Assertiveness: Say What You Want, to share some thoughts about a common situation where assertiveness is important. To start, I want to ask you have you ever experienced these feelings when making a decision in life: Do you feel guilty when you do something … Continue reading 5 Factors of Self-Guilt and How to Respond
Lessons in Assertiveness: Say What You Want
A simple trick I picked up on assertiveness training was the importance to be open and honest with thoughts. You might feel uncomfortable not saying what you want as you perceive, what you will say is not popular with the room. Yet quite often, this is nothing but fear, actually everyone else in the room … Continue reading Lessons in Assertiveness: Say What You Want
Assert Yourself! How to Not Be a Pushover When You Don’t Want to Do Something
Your life is your life... So why do you allow yourself to be pushed into doing things you don't want to do? The time you have is precious - you only get this opportunity once, why waste it on people, projects, activities that don't interest you? If you have problems asserting yourself, check out the … Continue reading Assert Yourself! How to Not Be a Pushover When You Don’t Want to Do Something
Manifesto Reinvented
When I first started this blog, I didn’t have a clue what I was doing… In some ways I still don’t know… But I do know I’m better at this, than when I first started… And that’s what you want in life, isn’t it?... Origins… Originally a space to keep accountable to my goals, Perfect … Continue reading Manifesto Reinvented
What Is Your Mantra?
What is your mantra? Several years ago, I was invited to a job interview. Arriving in usual early fashion, I perched myself on a bench inside Leeds train station, killing time with last-minute research. Prior to the interview I was a wreck. Getting this job wasn’t about a promotion or more money – it was … Continue reading What Is Your Mantra?
The art of assertiveness: anger and picking your battles wisely
When you let people drive you to anger, they control you. When you control your anger, you can drive people. A common misconception about assertiveness is it is just something for a meek shy pushover to develop, when actually, people who are quick to anger should study assertiveness to help establish more appropriate methods to … Continue reading The art of assertiveness: anger and picking your battles wisely
Lesson in assertiveness: Time is precious
Lesson in assertiveness: Time is precious This weekend I enjoyed a pub lunch with friends. As my schedule is really busy it's a great opportunity see people I haven't seen for a while. I enjoyed the catchup so so much I finished off the meal with a digestif at the bar. Afterwards we headed back … Continue reading Lesson in assertiveness: Time is precious
I tried to stop complaining for 21 days, here’s what happened…
I tried to stop complaining for 21 days, here's what happened... When I started self-improvement there was a sense of awe at the outlook leaders in the field possesed. Some had terrible backgrounds, yet didn't complain. It made me wonder - how did they maintain such a positive mindset? Are they like that 24/7 or … Continue reading I tried to stop complaining for 21 days, here’s what happened…
How not to be a pushover
This post on assertiveness was originally posted on March 2015. I set this development goal on something originally set called 'Stop looking after my friends so much'. The last few months has been a key few months. I have started my new job, but realise (and have been told) that I lack the confidence to … Continue reading How not to be a pushover
Fēijī
Fēijī - it means Airplane in Mandarin Chinese. When I was at University we had the option to do an additional language course on top of the regular degree. As it was evening study the courses weren't too popular as most students were too busy getting drunk. But studying Business it seemed logical to learn Mandarin. Upon … Continue reading Fēijī
Sorry About That…
I really think we say sorry too much. If I clash with someone coming out of the gents as I am going in 9 times out of 10 I hear "oh sorry..." Why do you need to be sorry? Isn't excuse me a more appropriate word? I couldn't help but think we say sorry too … Continue reading Sorry About That…
How not to be a pushover
In January I set myself the goal to 'Be more assertive'. This was a development on a goal I had originally set called 'Stop looking after my friends so much'. The last few months has been a key few months - for developing the importance of this goal. I have started my new job, but … Continue reading How not to be a pushover
Perfect Manifesto 